The main target for abuse with genders is women. No doubt about that. Women are seen as small and vulnerable, making it easy to leave marks on their skin. It’s not just women though. Men deal with abuse from significant others as well. The reason why men don’t come out and tell someone is because they believe that it will backfire. That if the man goes to a police officer and tells that his wife hit him, it will turn into a joke. That he can take it because he’s a man. Why isn’t it that way for a woman though? If men can handle a hit, why can’t women? It’s true that men are physically more built, have no muscle on them. That’s not an excuse. Look at Ronda Rousey. She could scare any man or woman. She’s not as built as an MMA male fighter but she can still kick ass. Why is there a debate on what gender can take a hit? It's sick in a way.

No one should get hit by their lover. Doesn’t matter if it’s a woman or a man. Some people seem to forget that not all guys are evil. Most aren’t. So why are there more accounts of abuse for women than men? As stated in the paragraph above, men tend to be scared to tell anyone. Masculinity is a never ending trend that, whether people like it or not, is an insecurity in most men. “You lost a fight to a girl? Really? A girl?” That statement breaks down what the male has built. Men in societies eyes are already put in this category along with women. The male’s job is to be this strong, brave, supposed to provide for the family, and be fearless. On the other end, women are meant to be this delicate flower that takes care of the kids, cooks, and cleans the house. So, if a man were to get hurt by a ‘delicate flower’, they will be seen as weak. They aren’t weak, they’re strong for not hitting back.

Those who have not been in an abusive relationship can’t judge. It’s hard to leave someone that one considers their love. “You’re being stupid. Why don’t you just leave?” Yeah, that’s going to make them want to leave. They don’t leave for many reasons that are different from person to person. Don’t ever assume that the person is stupid for not leaving something just because one doesn’t understand.

The next time something pops up about how someone should never hit a woman, agree but disagree. Men need to know that it is okay to tell someone that they are being abused by their lover. They need to know that whoever they tell, won’t make fun of him or tell him he’s not a man. He still is. The man took a big step in going to get help and not retaliating because as sad as it is, police will more than likely believe that she was defending herself. That he was the one who hit her first.

We’re all human. We’re all in some sort of tough situation. One gender is not more important than the other. In some situations, yes, but physical abuse should, again, never be a game on who can take a hit better. How about who can hug better.