Maybe she's the girl you follow on Instagram who always post the seemly effortless candids. Or maybe it is his "new girl" with the perfect outfits and beautiful smile. Whoever it is, please stop comparing yourself to her. We all do it. Social Media is like a black hole that sucks us all in. You find yourself scrolling for hours looking at pictures of flawless people wondering why you can't look like that, wondering why you don't get that many likes. Yes, she is beautiful. Her Instagram feed is not who she is though. What she is posting on social media is usually her best moments. When her hair looks the best, her makeup is exceptional, or when she’s wearing some of her favorite outfits.

But, that does not mean she is perfect. When you see those pictures she is posting, stop thinking, “She is so much prettier than me.” Or “I hate myself why don’t I look like that.” Think about how many attempts it took for you and your best friend to get that perfect picture. It is no different for her. The thing about social media is this: we portray ourselves how we want to be seen. Most of us will not post photos in the morning when we wake up with our sweatpants, hair tied, and when we’re chilling with no makeup on (so sorry I had to). A majority of the time the photos being posted are the best of the best. When the angle is just right, when the camera captures the perfect moment of you mid-laugh, and when the lighting hits you just in the right place.

Life is not a constant social media post. She, just like you, does not always look so effortlessly perfect. Please stop scrolling on her feed wondering why you aren’t her. Because that person you are comparing yourself to is doing the same exact thing. She too has moments of weakness. She too is scrolling on Social Media and comparing herself to someone else. Because we all do it. End the cycle. You may not be her, but that is okay. Can you imagine how boring this world would be if everyone looked like her? Dressed like her? Acted like her? The world needs a you, not another her. Do not worry or sit behind your phone screen obsessing and comparing yourself to her.

You are who you are. Which a wonderful human being who is so effortlessly you. It is okay if you are not a size 0 with perfectly chiseled abs, it is okay if you are not a size 10 and curvy. This world was created for all types of women. Not just her. Nothing is wrong with who she is, please don’t put her down. She is as beautiful as you see her to be, but so are you. Comparing yourself to her is not fair because you are two different people. Putting her down will not make her less pretty, less popular, or less of a person. She struggles like you too, respect that and learn from it. Learn to look at her and say “wow she is beautiful” and move on.

Do not harp or dwell on her beauty or charisma, you too have your own. It is okay to appreciate her beauty without putting your own down in the meantime. She is her, you are you, which is exactly what this world needs and how it was meant to be.