First let me say this- nothing in life is promised, nobody lives forever, relationships sometimes don't last and that is the tragedy of it all. When we are young and learning we see love as this precious thing that happens when we grow up. We want it to be just like an 80s movie, I know I did. (Still kind of do) We want the high school Mr. Popular waiting for us by his red car just like Jake Ryan from Sixteen Candles. We want the bad-boy criminal who turns soft and shows he has a softer, more kinder side like John Bender from The Breakfast Club. We want what we see in movies when we grow up, but what we get is utterly different.
Watching relationships on television is just that, entertainment. We get this idea into our heads of how it's supposed to be, how we ultimately want it to be. It's a heartbreaking thing when we find out the hard way that it isn't that easy. Not many of us are lucky to have found the love of our life in college, but congratulations to the ones who have. (I'm rooting for you!)
You just think that it's your fault he left or it's something you did or said that made him leave. Listen up, you may have pushed his buttons or said things and apologized many times, but did YOU leave? No. He did. He chose to leave you for a newer version or a "prettier" girl. He made the decision- not you. So now you're all heartbroken and posting and retweeting relatable tweets trying to get his attention. Then you want to get that revenge on him. That's right girl, show him what he's missing out on! Am I right? This might be a great idea and all, but think about this. He broke up with you, right? You blame yourself, right? So you want to change to make him want you again, right? Well wait a minute. Take a minute to breathe and be by yourself for a bit. Learn to love yourself and allow yourself to heal. Don't change to make him happy, be yourself and enjoy this period as a moment of growth. To find out who you are and live for you, not him. Go out and explore things you have always wanted to do and go. Go to that 6 am yoga class. Go on that hike with Jen and Kate from Chemistry class. Go to that new cafe, order your favorite drink and enjoy your own company. Do things for you. Do what makes you happy, because at the end of the day; we only get one life and if you sit here thinking about winning someone back or waste time thinking about what and who they are doing, you'll forget to live.
You'll be so caught up in trying to capture his attention or make him jealous that you waste your days of being yourself. You only get the days you have now, nothing is promised and no matter how hard you sit and ponder about what you deserved and what the reality of what you got was- you didn't deserve a better goodbye because with that goodbye, you found YOU.
