Note: All of the opinions are my own. I am respectful of everyone’s views on this topic
Have you noticed how much sex there is in the media? A couple of years ago, while I was eating ice cream after a long day, there was a commercial for a new movie called "Sex Tape." The media is so obsessed with sex that they actually made movie about a couple making a sex tape? Why? In fact, why all the sex in the media? I don’t get the obsession nor the message of “You HAVE to have sex. If you’re not, you’re a loser”.
According to my Christian faith, you have sex with your married partner. It is described as very pure and beautiful, and intimate and very close to express your love for each other. If you don’t want to wait until marriage, just make sure you actually know the person. You should wait until marriage, but I won’t judge if you do not wait. I don't care what you do or don't do.
How is the media, ruining the concept of sex? In some television shows that I watch, there are one night stands or constant sex with people they just met. It gives out the message that this is how sex is supposedto be like. Just have sex with anyone you want, anytime you want.
And when I mean sex, I don’t mean the actual thing. I also mean the portrayal of men and women, especially women. The portrayal of women, in particular, is disgusting. In many times, especially through movies, TV shows, commercials, and magazines such as Playboy, women are portrayed as sex objects. You normally see these women in either short, cleavage-showing outfits or in bikinis. When this is in TV shows and movies, the men characters would ogle or/and lust after them. And sometimes, it does ends with sex. Why? Because according to media, women are only made to serve men and their sexual desires. Men also get the same treatment as women, especially in movies and TV shows about bachelorette parties. We see men half-naked with tight underpants while the women characters ogle them. This gives both genders some of the worst messages: We are made to satisfy each other’s sexual desires, which is not true. While we are made to make more people with sex, we are created to work with other people and make friends with them, and be nice and respectful of each other. We are also made to make our societies strong with goodness and wisdom. Hollywood’s society is messed up for numerous of reasons, but it is still always glamorize by the media.
What you are thinking might be, “This girl is stupid. She says we can’t have sex at all and have fun with it.” No, that’s not what I’m saying. And again, I respect your views. So, if you have sex with a random person, I don’t care. Why would I care? It’s none of my business. And you are still a good person. What I am saying to everyone is to have sex responsibly. And you are also thinking, “This girl is so stupid. She is a virgin and she only believes in sex until marriage because of her stupid religion. She knows nothing about sex.” Like I said in the beginning, this is only a opinion that I have. Obviously, I am not a pro in sex. Honestly, I feel awkward, talking about this. But just because I am saving myself, it doesn’t mean that I’m not allowed to talk about it. I’m not shaming sex in any way. I am shaming Hollywood and its message that is ruining the meaning of sex. I am encouraging everyone to stop listening to Hollywood’s message on sex and have sex when you are actually ready. If you had not have sex, there is nothing wrong with you. There is no rush in having sex. Take your time. It will happen when it happens, and hopefully with the right person. Just be patient.
