In a generation where many people think it's okay to have sex with multiple partners, people don't know "what's the big deal?" There are so many reason that sex is a big deal, however this generation doesn't treat it as one and I want you to know why you should. Sex is more than just two people who are attracted to each other "going at it". Sex has a huge impact on people's emotions and lives more than you may even realize.

People used to refer to sex as "making love" but now sex is just sex. Sex was supposed to be for two people who loved each other, but now people just do it to do it. You can only lose your virginity once and I feel as though it should be special. When you love someone you want to give them yourself completely and that is the final piece. The problem is that it becomes less special and meaningful when you have already given it to someone else. Think of your virginity as a beautiful flower and every time you have sex, a petal falls off. You are worried at first but afterwards, you think I already lost my virginity so "what's the big deal if I do it again"? Then you have sex again and again and before you couldn't even notice a difference when you lost a petal but now that's changed. Now the flower is just a few petals here and there; the beauty and wonder are gone, it's no longer special.

That is not the only reason it's a big deal. Sex has many consequences that people don't seem to worry enough about. First, there are so many different STD's (Sexually Transmitted Diseases), or as they are now called STI's (Sexually Transmitted infections). People don't just go around asking everyone they sleep with if they have been tested beforehand. However, some STI's don't have any visible symptoms, so asking is the only way to know. Some STI's are curable but others are only treatable and you will have them for the rest of your life. Even scarier is the number of people who die from them, every year. The second consequence is pregnancy and yes boys have to worry about this too-- want to know why? The girl may be the one physically carrying the baby, but it's your baby too and you are responsible even if you choose to not take care of the child because you will still have to pay child support.

You may say, "we are okay we use protection", but nothing is 100 percent. You have probably heard someone say, "I was an accident". Well, accidents do happen and the only way to prevent pregnancy or catching and STI's is to wait. If you aren't prepared for the consequences then that's your best option. If you aren't ready to have a child than you aren't ready to have sex because that is exactly what you might get.

Another reason you may want to wait is because of the emotional toll and regret that sex puts on a person. Many people I know regret their first time and aren't even with the person they lost their virginity too. Also after you have sex you get more attached to the person and hurt even more if you break-up.

I want everyone who reads this to know I'm not telling you don't have sex until marriage, I'm just trying to get you to see that it IS a big deal and it should be treated as one. I want you to know what sex really means and the affect it has on your life. Also I want you to know the possible consequences of sex. After you have read this and have got all this information then it is ultimately your decision; is sex worth the wait to you?