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You're 20 And Settled Down? Oh, To Be Young— And Stupid.

I'll be over here enjoying being free.

Teisha

Jan 17, 2017

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You're 20 And Settled Down? Oh, To Be Young— And Stupid.

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To The Girl That Is Settling Down At 20,

You're twenty. 20. 2 - 0.

Our brain isn't even fully developed yet. Well, neither is mine, since the brain doesn't fully develop until the age of 25. However, there's a difference between me and half of the people that I graduated high school with. I didn't choose to use my youth to pop out babies and be married to the "love of my life" that I'll probably be divorced to in 3 years. If you're reading this and you're under 22, don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing you for making your own choices. I love babies, and want to be married to my best friend someday. I want to have a little family of my own, and people to come home to at the end of a long day at work. However, I'm choosing to do it the "old-fashioned" way.

By waiting.

I'm in no hurry to "settle down." I'm one of the few who is very glad I'm spending my early twenties with myself and only me. Well, besides my wonderful boyfriend who I'm not in a rush to be engaged to. This is the time to get to know yourself, be selfish, and make choices that you're young enough to make. For me, those things include graduating college and traveling to places I've only dreamed of seeing so far. Hate to say it, but if you have kids young, you're reducing your chances of both of these things by a large percent. I'd rather have a degree and the pride of hard work than two screaming kids pulling on my arm at 22.

A degree will let me give the life to my future kids that I've always wanted them to have. I'll be taking cute selfies with my friends at the bar after work(the job I worked all my life for) while you're at home listening to your child scream because you didn't get the right brand of chicken nuggets. I want to cherish being young while I can. And for me, being young and dumb is a temporary situation. One that doesn't include diapers, daycare, and formula. Sorry, not sorry.

I'll stay young and free.

From The Girl Acting Her Age.

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2. Appointments usually accompany weird looks.

3. Introducing yourself to someone is never without a hitch.

4. You’ve probably thought about changing your name.

5. You’re often asked why you have the name you do.

6. You get excited when you meet someone of your gender with your name.

7. You feel awkward when you meet someone of the opposite gender with your name.

8. You’ve had someone say to you, “I knew a [your name], but they were [your opposite gender].”

9. You’ve heard a bad joke/pick-up line or two about your name before.

10. People are surprised when they see you.

11. You’re extra sensitive to other unique or unisex names.

12. You’ve fought with your parents about it.

13. All things considered, you’re happy your name makes you unique.

You know that all of these things apply to you. You'll just never tell.

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1. At least I can't lose you in a crowd!

2. Oh my goodness your skin is like glow-in-the-dark.

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5. Your kids are going to look like Casper the Friendly Ghost!

6. *holds arm against your arm* Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. *holds pale arm against another pale arm* Aw, at least you're darker than her!

8. I laid out by the pool almost every day over break!

9. I haven't used sunscreen since I was, like, five.

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14. Aren't you excited for summer?

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11. after working out Your face is SO red!

12. wears white Look! You're all one color!