Have you ever had a server who seemed to have a bit of an attitude? Well, maybe its for reasons that you might not even realize. I’ve been a waitress for a few years now, and I could go on and on about things that bother us. Don’t get me wrong, I love my job and it has taught me so many things! Though, that doesn’t mean that it is always sunshine and peaches working in a restaurant. Here are a few things to keep in mind as you take your seat at your next meal out.

1. Please don’t ignore me when I approach your table.

It just makes it awkward as I stand there, waiting to serve you, listening to your conversation. I just want to get you something to drink!

2. Try not to ask me a question that can clearly be answered by reading the menu.

If you forgot your glasses, I will gladly read it for you! If you have a question about the ingredients used, I can answer that. Otherwise, please take a second to look over the large print sitting right in front of you.

4. If your food is taking a long time, don’t be angry at me. It’s not my fault.

If we’re busy and the kitchen is behind, your food is going to take a little longer. I am checking on it every chance I get, and I promise that I will bring it out as soon as it is ready. There is nothing I can do to make your burger cook faster, though.

4. Once I give you your check, please don’t sit at the table for another hour sipping your water.

Even if the restaurant is dead, you sitting at your table is the only thing stopping me from going home, getting my other responsibilities done, or getting a new group seated. I want you to have a good experience at the restaurant, but if you’re not finished with your conversation, move to the bar so that I can clear your table.

6. If you are part of a large group who all wants separate checks, please don't rush me.

I have to split one ginormous check into many smaller ones, which takes time on a computer system. Then, I have to double check that they are all correct so that I can ensure that each person is paying the right amount. It is going to take longer than normal and you need to accept that. I am going as fast as I can!

5. Please tip me according to your service.

If I messed up your order or forgot your drink, I can understand a lower tip. But, if I am visibly busy and still managed to give you great service, please leave at least a customary 20%. It can be really discouraging when I know I was friendly, attentive, and prompt and yet still only receive a small thank you.

7. Leaving your table in a giant mess is just rude.

This creates ten times more tasks for both me and the host. Clearing plates is one thing, but having to clear your gum wrappers, tissues, and who knows what else is not what I'm being paid for. Your meal is not the time to clean out your purse.