Life is on a continuous cycle of loss and gain, with the majority of things: one of those things being friends. Friends come and go every so often and losing a friend stings the heart a little. It does not matter how or why we lost that person because that loss is still a loss; however, sometimes losing a friend has a gaining element to it too. This is not in every circumstance but sometimes that relationship is no longer serving a purpose, your purpose. This can be with anything we have in our lives whether it is a friendship, relationship, family, career, job, etc. If it is no longer making you happy and serving a purpose, get out of it!
The only person who facilitates what you do in life is yourself. If you are miserable and uncomfortable in a situation or relationship, immediately remove yourself from it. This is much easier said than done but I can tell you from experience that cutting ties when you see the first sign is easier than ignoring the signs and living in shame and having regrets when you finally do walk away. Yes, everything is a learning and teaching experience but do not overstay. Study the lesson, pass the test, and move on.
Our lives are too short, valuable, and precious to stick with something that makes us miserable. There is an author of some amazing quotes that I love named Jose N. Harris. The quote I am thinking of at the moment says, “There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy.” I love this man! He is brilliant!
If you are not content with how your life is at the moment, you must make a change. Breaking down Harris’ quote, we must first walk away from the people who no longer make us happy and find the ones who do. Sometimes those people who do not make us happy walk away first because the majority of them are narcissists. They walk away when we physically, mentally, and emotionally cannot bow down to their every request. If you break your back trying to please them, it will never be good enough. When we begin focusing on the good that we have in our lives, the blessings of those things outweigh the bad in our lives. We need to stop trying to please the people who do not treat us right or love us in return. Put your effort and love into someone who appreciates and deserves it. Do not ever remain miserable for someone else because life is about your happiness. You are vital. You are important.
There will come a time in your life when you realize that how you feel is more important that living in a hell that we chose to stay in for far too long. Do not feel guilty for weeding out negative people in your life. If you want to be happy, being surrounded by negative people will not fulfill your needs. I think that everyone’s goal in life is to live in happiness and bliss, so do not hold yourself back from reaching this goal. After all, you deserve it!
