When I was growing up, I always worried "What if this doesn't work out ?" or "What is going to happen next?" Whenever the outcome was not in my favor, I constantly thought "Why didn't this work out ?! I am a good person!" or "Why did it work out for her and not me?" It wasn't until my freshman year of college when I first learned of the quote "Que sera, sera", which is Spanish for "Whatever will be, will be". At first, I was a little confused by this quote because I thought that things should always work out for good people.
As I reflected on my past failures, I realized something that I did not notice when I was younger: the unwanted outcome happened in order to protect me from something. This "something" could have been a problem or negative circumstance that I would've dealt with if things did work out in my favor. I finally discovered that the things that didn't work out were not meant to be and would only prevent me from growing as a person. Just because something worked out for someone and not for you doesn't mean he or she is better than you. It worked out for that person because he/she needed it more than you did for their personal growth. Everyone has different opportunities and experiences in life.
Someone might get something that you wanted but not get something else that they've wanted. Most importantly, I learned that there are things that we can't control in life, and life doesn't always work out as planned. What we can control is how we react to the negative situations. We just have to take every failure as a learning experience, keep our heads up and move on. I also realized how lucky I am to have amazing opportunities and people in my life that make me happy and have helped me grow as a person.
Since my freshman year of college, I've been living by the quote "Que sera, sera". Whenever I start thinking about how I want something to work out in my favor, I realize that I cannot control the outcome and that if something whether it is a job, an acceptance, a friendship, or a relationship is meant to be, it will be. If it's not meant to be, it isn't the end of the world. Life always has a way of working out by refusing to give us something less than we deserve and then giving us something even better than what we wanted. If you're worrying about what the outcome of a situation will be or wondering why something didn't work out for you, remember "Que sera, sera".
