Every now and then I picture what I'll look like in 10 years. Of course there's the never ending optimism that taunts me with visions of a stronger, healthier, fitter me, but I never consider the effects age will have on my body. Ten years from now, I'll be 29 and on the brink of middle-age, a concept that may seem dated but haunts millennials every time they see a wrinkle treatment commercial. Yet, the irony remains as to why millennials are afraid of the inevitable more than any other generation, especially considering that one in five Americans will be older than 65 by 2030Â and more and more seniors are depicted as adventurous, autonomous individuals. Probably the most reasonable explanation lies in the misguided over-glorification of youth.
Don't get me wrong — I have nothing against adults over 50 and have spent my own share of time at the Lutheran Home engaging with intellectual, witty and active residents, but every time I skim through Cosmopolitan or turn on late-night infomercials that advertise hair-loss prevention products, I cringe a little. The reality is that we are all subject to growing older, but while some aspects are positive, we tend to focus on the negative way more. The daunting tasks of becoming fully functioning adults and the fact that we'll be working late into our 70s just to secure a slice of retirement funds are reason enough to keep us awake at night. But the more prevalent fear has more to do with emotional security rather than financial. Research done by the Natural Marketing Institute shows that "53 percent of Millennials already fear losing physical vitality and independence during their golden years." While most young people can't wait to turn 18 or 21 to gain a sense of independence, those well into their 30s start to miss feeling "young." Granted, youth is subjective and mental age is everything nowadays, but some millennials are starting to feel this FOMO 10-15 years earlier than they should. When we take a look at what the media is currently projecting and couple it with major scientific advances in anti-aging medicine and research, there's no arguing that our society is conditioned to pay big bucks to take a sip from the elusive fountain of youth. But that's just the tip of the iceberg. There's some serious issues regarding vanity and self worth if some sources claim that RBF is the trick to preventing wrinkles and staying pretty — but RBF, although scientifically backed by Dr. Rogers and Macbeth at Noldus Consulting, brings up another enticing line of reasoning behind our disdain with the aging process.Simply put, millennials buy into the culture of aesthetic a lot more than their parents did, mainly because of the huge variety of digital media products like Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, Tumblr and Snapchat that are available for posting or browsing filtered "no filter" photos or exaggerated set ups of seemingly simple things. I'm not saying I'm not guilty of posting more than my fair share of conveniently arranged acai bowls or "candids," but I'm trying to point out the irony of our discontent. Let me bring us full circle: our selfie-loving selves may be perpetuating the same societal ideals we've been having beef with for the last two decades. As progressive as we may be as millennials, it's okay to admit the faults in our double-standards and recognize that redefining our own standards of beauty and embracing different ones may be the only solution.
More than anyone else in my family, my mom is consistently wishing she could turn back the clock. Although this thinking definitely has adverse effects on me, it emphasizes for me that beauty really isn't skin-deep. Where she sees wrinkly, I see dimples and where she sees crow's feet, I see laugh lines. And that's just one of the reasons why I won't ever adopt RBF to preserve my complexion. As for selfies, if a post here or there is what it takes to allow yourself to love you harder, then by all means, post away. When it comes to confidence, we can all take a lesson from Advanced Style, a revolutionary blog founded by Ari Seth Cohen showcasing the fashion-forward golden ladies of New York. In my mind, there's no doubt that a generation so open-minded as ours can see the beauty in age and learn to appreciate what we have instead of worrying about what we won't have in 10 years.