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I'm Selfish And I Don't Care

It doesn't always have to be a bad thing

Kennedy Savageau

Dec 12, 2016

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Belinda McCarthy

Everyone refers to being selfish as a bad thing - all you do is take, take, take and never give anything in return. These days, apparently saying "thank you" to a compliment instead of denying it is selfish, or putting yourself before others, or buying yourself a present for your birthday. It makes you a selfish, conceited, narcissistic, etc etc., but at this point in my life, if I'm considered selfish, I just don't care.

I spent so many years giving and giving and giving. I gave my love, my time, my teenage years, and my money to so many people that I actually lost myself along the way. I never focused on my own happiness or my own mental health, and it made me too dependent on other people and that just wasn't okay. I thought that making other people happy meant I was happy, and while I do love putting a smile on people's faces, I wasn't truly feeling the joy I thought it would bring me, and it was becoming a problem.

I thought maybe having a "special someone" in my life made me happy, and while it did, I found myself down and out when I wasn't with that person. I couldn't be happy alone, and I wasn't devoting myself to making that possible. I went from one long term relationship to the next, never giving myself the opportunity to be single and figure out what I needed or wanted in life, and now that I have given myself the chance to experience this life, I don't have a single regret.

I love myself. I take selfies when I'm having a good hair day, I check myself out in the mirror when I'm rocking an outfit, and I don't fear the judgement of others. I'm selfish - I take care of myself mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially. I'm aware of my intelligence and I'm not afraid to show it off. I know I'm an attractive person, and there's no way in hell I'm going to deny a compliment when I receive one. Sometimes I even consider my own feelings and my own thoughts before I think about other people -- Oh, the horror!! But I don't care. If being selfish and loving yourself is wrong, then I don't ever want to be right again. I spent my time loving everyone else, and now it's time to love the most important person in my life: myself.

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All names should be "unisex names."

1. Communicating via email can be awkward.

2. Appointments usually accompany weird looks.

3. Introducing yourself to someone is never without a hitch.

4. You’ve probably thought about changing your name.

5. You’re often asked why you have the name you do.

6. You get excited when you meet someone of your gender with your name.

7. You feel awkward when you meet someone of the opposite gender with your name.

8. You’ve had someone say to you, “I knew a [your name], but they were [your opposite gender].”

9. You’ve heard a bad joke/pick-up line or two about your name before.

10. People are surprised when they see you.

11. You’re extra sensitive to other unique or unisex names.

12. You’ve fought with your parents about it.

13. All things considered, you’re happy your name makes you unique.

You know that all of these things apply to you. You'll just never tell.

I get it... I'm pale.

1. At least I can't lose you in a crowd!

2. Oh my goodness your skin is like glow-in-the-dark.

3. Can't you just get fake tan?

4. Do you tan or just burn?

5. Your kids are going to look like Casper the Friendly Ghost!

6. *holds arm against your arm* Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. *holds pale arm against another pale arm* Aw, at least you're darker than her!

8. I laid out by the pool almost every day over break!

9. I haven't used sunscreen since I was, like, five.

10. *adjusts selfie lighting to their face* Oops, where'd you go??

11. *after working out* Your face is SO red!

12. *wears white* Look! You're all one color!

13. You need to get some sun.

14. Aren't you excited for summer?

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4. Taking a million 0 credit classes:

5. When there's a paper due the next day, but you have to attend yet another concert in order to pass a 0 credit class:

6. When your friends try to encourage you after a performance, even though you are criticizing everything in your mind:

7. Knowing that there's always that one professor during juries:

8. The oh-so-attractive band/choir uniforms:

9. Realizing that a college campus is maybe not the best atmosphere to finish your latest composition:

10. Hearing "Oh, you sing opera? I LOVE Phantom of the Opera!" for the hundredth time:

11. When people think finals week is a breeze for you.

12. When you're drowning in the stress that comes with 18+ credits (and not to mention all those 0 credit classes) and people ask you how you are:

13. When it all comes down to it, though, you know that at the end of the day, music is your passion:

Because you need it in your life.

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6. holds arm against your arm Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. holds pale arm against another pale arm Aw, at least you're darker than her!

10. adjusts selfie lighting to their face Oops, where'd you go??

11. after working out Your face is SO red!

12. wears white Look! You're all one color!