The expression “self-love” may sound cheesy from time to time but it is a VERY important expression. Many people do not understand its’ concept or take the time to do it. “Love yourself” is not solely an expression that you use only when you are making yourself feel better about your physicality. It goes WAAAY beyond that.
I have written various articles about transitioning to a healthy lifestyle and working out. In there I have included a few narratives as to how I practiced self-love. It was not easy AT ALL but it is extremely important.
I believe that it is something you should have worked on before getting involved with someone or before committing yourself to responsibilities such as a job, school, etc (Or work on it during your commitment). College helped me discover who I was, who I did not want to be, who I want to be with (more or less), who I do not want, where I want to go and how I am going to get there.
In terms of a significant other, I have also written previously as to why I have not been in involved with anyone seriously, especially in college. I was completely focused on my studies and myself.
I dated here and there but it was nothing serious. Now after graduating college I began to think how I could possibly consider being in a relationship. No, I am not looking for it; that is if they come along (because life is all about expecting the unexpected). I am confident, smart, independent, hard worker and so on. I understand where I stand and it was all because I did more than enough self-discovery during college. I do not have my complete life in order, I am twenty-two, but I understand that it will take time before I can begin my career. What is most important before anything else is that you are aware of where YOU stand with yourself. Do you want someone right now? Do you just want to have fun? Know your wants/needs/limits to it all!
The way I practiced or learned to love/accept and learn about myself was through my radio show and the gym (my two outlets). On the radio show, I found my voice. I was a shy girl growing up, which is why I was intimidated at first when I went behind the mic. But NOW, three years later I am able to walk in the studio confidently and OWN that mic, because of that constant practice I had week after week. At the gym, I blew off steam and learned of my capabilities in the weight room too. It also helped with my confidence and of course strength.
Whether you are pursuing someone, career or studies always keep yourself in mind! No, you are not being selfish, you are simply being there for yourself; building yourself up.
I understand that you can easily loose yourself in this hell we call life. But I guarantee you there will always be someone there to either remind you or have you question what you stand for. So be aware of it!
