Ladies. Dating and facilitating the growth of a long lasting a prosperous relationship is all about efficiency in relationship based tactics and practices. But relationships stem from somewhere, right? Maybe someone caught your eye and you took the first step at initiating communication. Maybe you were at a party and the two of you had been eyeing each other all night until he/she finally approached you. While the pathway to a relationship can stem from a number of routes, they pretty much begin in the same place: the first date.
When determining your feelings or passion towards a particular individual, we all know it becomes critical that a sufficient amount of time is spent getting to know that person. This influences compatibility, companionship, as well as strength. Again, this all begins somewhere, which is typically the first time you spend one-on-one time together.
In this article, I'm going to share the top 5 things I think it's important that we as ladies DO NOT DO or SAY on a first date...especially if you're looking for a second!
1. "I love you"
Never underestimate the power of language. We all know that these are three of the most powerful words that can be uttered from an individual's mouth. They hold weight and are typically administered when you've known someone for an adequate period of time, developed a level of companionship, etc. Telling someone you love them or see yourself developing a love for them is not only strange, but frightening. He/she will probably be freaked out and not want to further the relationship.
2. Talking about your exes or past relationship experiences
You're on the date to move on from your past, to open yourself up to new experiences and relationships. Your date could most likely care less about past relationships. After all, he/she is looking to impress you based on a different level of unique standards. Let them sell themselves to you!
3. Reveal too much about your sex life
Your sex life is your business and in due time should be your partner’s business as well. As you become comfortable with each other, sharing intimate details about your life becomes commonplace. However, the first date is not the time to mention that you’ve had so many different sex partners or intimate relationships with people. The person you’re on the date with won’t care; they’re concerned about themselves and the impression they’ll make. Keep that in mind!
4. Spreading your legs
Sex means everything to some people and nothing to others. There's an extremely wide spectrum of beliefs with regards to sex. But I think there's a mutual understanding that sex after the first date might create a different impression of you and your morals/values. Make them work for it; keep your legs closed on the first date ladies!
5. Dressing overly provocative
Be sexy. Make an impression. But keep in mind that there’s an extremely thin line between sexy and “slutty.” Dress to leave a lasting impression, but keep your date on his/her toes about your additional assets.