We all love seasons, things changing and new things beginning. When Christmas time comes around we get excited to break out the fluffy sweaters and scented candles. When the new year strikes we all make lists and lists of way to better ourselves. Now, when it comes to seasons in our lives we aren't as quick to be happy about them. A scarier word for seasons is changes, and if you're anything like me you hate anything about change. Change means giving up routine and having to adapt to something new. Sometimes, change is good and can be what you need at a certain point. Sometimes the season you need to enter is the season of YOU.
It's easy to shut down and wallow when things such as break ups or friendships end. Some people grieve relationships for way too long, and some simply dust it off and move onto the next one. What if there was another option, another season if you will. Sometimes things end for new things to begin. Possibly the relationship that you are so sad about loosing is the door closing to the next door opening. Of course you're allowed to grieve, break ups are hurtful and emotional. It's hard when anything in your life ends but there's a new light at the end of this dark depressing tunnel, and it's called you.
In today's society we are obsessed with sharing, we share every part of our lives with anyone who will hit the follow button. I've seen a pattern that when people end a relationship they look to the next best thing that they can fill that void with. That void is you. It's time to put yourself first. Date yourself. Seriously, accept the state of being alone and embrace it. Fall back in love with yourself. Recreating yourself is such a beautiful thing. You can be completely different today than you were yesterday.
I've seen that some people like to measure happiness by checking of boxes on a list of things they think they need to have. Boyfriend/girlfriend, school degree, steady job, ect. While these things are great goals to have we're missing one. True happiness that we bring to ourselves. If we find this alone, we will find more happiness in the many other things to follow.
Choose you.
