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Stop Searching For 'The One,' Because It Will Happen Eventually

Everyone wants that happily ever after, their person, the one they can count on, but you can't seek it out- that person will come, just be patient.

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Dec 26, 2018

Temple University

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Now, this is coming from the girl that has only ever been in one real relationship my senior year of high school, but it is safe to say that I certainly have not found my one true love or my soulmate. But, after going on a few dates, talking to guys that just didn't quite match my personality and I didn't vibe completely with, I have decided that I am not going to seek out a relationship anymore.

I believe that out there in this great world everyone has their match and will eventually cross paths with the one they are meant to be with. But forcing human connection, or trying to convince yourself that you like a person, never works.

Real, genuine relationships are not forced- they come naturally. I have tried to overlook someone's personality flaws and tried to convince myself that I liked someone but it really never works out in the end.

Think about your closest friend, the person you vibe the most with, the person you can count on, the person you tell everything to. Maybe at first, it was all small talk- but eventually, it reached a point where you felt comfortable sharing everything with that person.

Just like your best friend, a boyfriend or girlfriend should move past that awkward stage and into a real connection- and if the spark isn't there, there is no need to force it.

Far too many times I have had conversations with my friends about them questioning a guy they're talking to. They wonder if they are really into him if they get along well if he treats her the way she wants, and ultimately I have come to the conclusion that if it is a person you are meant to be with, you should nothave to question those things.

Life is too short to spend time with people you don't actually get along with, and there is no use putting time and effort into a relationship if the connection was never really there in the first place.

I may have too much hope or optimism, but I like to believe that everyone's person is out there somewhere. Instead of spending time in relationships that fall just a bit too short, focus on you, and make sure you are happy with your life before seeking out a new person to add into the mix.

Be patient, and life will surprise you when you least expect it.

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Brooke Davis of the hit show One Tree Hill was the it girl - she had it all, or so we thought. She started out as a stuck-up, shallow, spoiled, head cheerleader who didn't have her life together. She slept around a lot and loved to party - sounds like your typical high school teenager right? Wrong. B. Davis had so much more to offer. Caring, loyal, and outspoken, she has taught us some valuable lessons throughout the 9 seasons that OTH was on the air:

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11 Signs You Have An Honorary Roommate

Make yourself at home, why don't you?

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For some of us, coming to college was the first time we ever had to share a room. It was a big change, but a fun one. As you meet more and more people over the course of your college career, it seems to be a pattern that you will at some point have that one friend that doesn't live with you, but acts like they do. We call those people, "Honorary Roommates" and here are 11 signs you have one in your life.