Destiny. It’s a funny thing, isn’t it? We all have this idea that everything will just fall into place and no matter what happens we will end up where we are supposed to be. We think we can just sit back and let destiny take over and work its magic. I thought this was something to believe in, it kind of gives you a sense of hope and direction, so I thought. In reality though, I ended up getting lost believing in the idea that if it’s destined to be it will be.

Screw destiny.

If you want something in life, whether that be a dream career, house, or life long partner, you shouldn’t just think that it will happen if it is supposed too. You know what you should do if you want something? You should go get it. You should work for it. You should do these things even if it seems impossible. And when that time comes and you say this thing you want could never happen and you start saying that stupid phrase, “if it’s meant to be it will be,” stop. There is no “set” future for a person. We make our own. We make the path to wherever it is we want to go.

Destiny can be a nice thing to believe in but in all honesty, it holds us back from our potential. It stops us from taking risks and making our own, crazy decisions. Just because you fail doesn’t mean you weren’t “destined” to do it. When you fail, it means you need to get up and try again. Keep trying until you are tired of doing so. That is when you give up. You don’t give up because destiny is telling you it’s the wrong choice. Everything will fall into place as you want it to as long as you do it. Even if you still want to believe in destiny you can't sit back and do nothing. If you do, the way everything will fall into place won't be in the way you wanted it to be and you will question destiny and think lower of yourself. That isn't the future you deserve. You deserve a future where you are in charge of the outcomes. No one should rely on this thing we call destiny.

So what I say to myself every time I think something is not meant to be: screw destiny, if I want something I’m going to go get it.