The one thing that I am sure that we all hate the most is when someone states that you can't do something.
I am not only talking about outright saying it. It can be subtle or it can be made very known. It irks me to no end when someone states that I can't do something. Especially when they know nothing about me. Who gives you the right to tell me when I can't do something?
It can affect a mentality.
You start to second guess everything you do and it can really affect how you used to do things. Some people can brush it off, but for those that can't, learn how to. Nothing should be standing in your way of what you want. I get told countless times that forensics is nothing like TV and "I don't know how you will be able to handle it." or "Maybe you should stay in the lab." Like what?
Right out of high school, we are told to pick our career paths, If we are told to choose, then why does everyone try to talk them out of it. If you know what is best for me, then please, lead me through my adult life. Do not tell me I can't do something if you are not going to offer any other advice.
If you originally started something, FINISH it.
Do not let anyone else deter you from your original goal. You started to believe in yourself, why would you let someone else say no to you? It is one of the few statements that drives everyone crazy. I am not talking about when you are about to do something stupid and someone says no because most likely it is a stupid idea. The saying of "you can't do something" just draws a certain impulsive nature out of people.
As a little kid, when you were told that you can't do something, you don't do it. Mostly that is because it is something you shouldn't be doing. Now, as an adult, being told you can't do something is almost an insult. Mostly that is someone who is trying to deter you from a goal. Making decisions as an adult involves a lot of thinking and reasoning. You work towards a goal and most importantly, towards success.
Do not let those words affect you.
You are an adult now and some the hardest choices are deciding whether it is right or wrong. You want to strive to be great and successful and that is going to involve a lot of door shutting in your face. In order to continue further, you shouldn't allow people to say you can't do something. Especially if it is the one thing that you need to reach your goal.
The phrase "you can't do something" makes us roll our eyes now, but the sting will always be there. Hopefully, when we are even older than we are now, we can just stick with the eye roll.
