Whether I would like to admit it or not, I am a people pleaser. I always find it difficult to say no when someone asks me for a favor or to go out and spend time with them. Since I always end up doing what the people I care about want me to do, I end up having too much on my plate sometimes.
Sometimes this means accompanying a friend to an event that I may not even want to go to or running errands for my parents after class. Whatever the case may be, the favors add up and usually go underappreciated.
When I say no to somebody, especially somebody I care about, I feel like I am letting them down and I will miss out on something if I don't provide the favor or go out.
On the other hand, always saying yes leads to overdoing things and one person can only do so much. In the end, something doesn't get done or doesn't get done as well regardless of me saying yes in the first place.
Also, when I find myself always saying yes to other people my own health tends to suffer. I see a difference in my schoolwork my physical health, and my relationships with people.
It's too easy to over-exhaust myself and the only one feeling the negative effects of that is me. If I do not take enough time to recover after spending countless days out with and helping other people, I end up not feeling like myself and being unable to do the things that I need to for myself.
With this being said, there is no denying that it is still good to help people get things done and to go out and have a good time with the ones you care about. It is great getting things crossed off your to-do list and moving on with your life.
However, there will never be a shortage of events going on or errands to run. If somebody asks you to go out or do them a favor and you find yourself already doing a ton of other things, it is definitely fine to say no.
If this person is truly a good friend or a loved one in general that really cares about you, they will not be upset with you for saying no and they will completely understand. There will always be more events to go to with them and there will always be more errands to run.
Oh, and simply not being interested in whatever it is can remain a valid excuse to say no too. Why waste your time doing something that you know you will dread just because somebody else is asking you to?
Unfortunately, you are not always going to be in a position where you can put everything behind you to make other people happy and it is perfectly fine to say no to people for your own benefit.
Making time to relax and practicing saying no are good goals to strive for, especially if you find yourself having a difficult time with that. Living life is not only about pleasing people, getting something done or going out. It's also about being aware of what you need to be the best you that you can be and figuring out how to be your best self.
Sometimes that means staying back home to read, sleep, play video games, watch Netflix, or whatever it is you do to genuinely relax. I find myself reading, writing and watching sports to relax.
Don't feel guilty about taking time to do things to better yourself. If you're anything like me, you have a list running through your head of what you need to get done always in your head. Sometimes it is perfectly fine to tell that voice to be quiet for your own benefit.
