Dating someone is different than being engaged to them, I have learned. The shift is pretty much all mental, and suddenly you realize that you’re spending forever with this one person; not staying together for a while and then splitting when you get tired and want something new. You’re actually going to stick around and compromise and make things work and it’s entirely terrifying.
What makes getting married so terrifying is how much you question and how much you don’t question. Meaning, you’ll stress yourself out questioning your decision, or you won’t and you’ll realize you aren’t and that will stress you out. Either way, it’s scary to process a permanent change. Getting engaged is saying that you’re willing to spend your life with this person, and also stress out about that for however long the engagement lasts. All of this stress though doesn’t compare to the smug satisfaction of never needing Tinder or going through that stupid “do they or don’t they?” phase ever again.
Truthfully, being engaged shows you a new side to the person you’ve been dating. Sure, it was serious before, but now it’s Officially Serious and you can bet that new facets of who they are will come to light, especially when it comes to wedding planning. Do they disagree well? are they willing to meet you halfway on some issues? does it truly matter to them if the flowers are real or fake and is asking that a taboo to them? These are things you learn about a person, and they’re very telling. If you can handle the stress of planning a Major Meshing of Two Families (also known as a “wedding”) and deal with the flying opinions of relatives on how your big day should go, you guys should be just fine.
Saying goodbye to being single isn’t the easiest thing to do, though. There are lots of fun parts of being single that you just kiss goodbye to when you get into a relationship. For example, not working your schedule around anyone but yourself; very freeing, but usually too free so you leave yourself open to developing addictions, bad habits, or severe cases of boredom. Also, being able to be totally on your own level of how your living space is maintained, whether it’s meticulously clean or… not. There are hundreds of little and not-so-little ways that having another person permanently installed in your life has an effect on, and honestly, most are for the better. Saying goodbye to being single has led me to be less self-centered, more open to discussion and finding middle ground and better at eating all the leftovers before they get stolen. Certainly, not every aspect is peaches and cream (because he doesn’t like peaches and I’m lactose intolerant), but you make do with what you have and you do it with someone there who’s willing to hold your hand. Your singlehood might be ending, but the fun part of your life is just beginning.
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Working with the public can be a job, in and of itself. Some people are just plain rude for no reason. But regardless of how your day is going, always having to be in the best of moods, or at least act like it... right?
1. When a customer wants to return a product, hands you the receipt, where is printed "ALL SALES ARE FINAL" in all caps.
2. Just because you might be having a bad day, and you're in a crappy mood, doesn't make it okay for you to yell at me or be rude to me. I'm a person with feelings, just like you.
3. People refusing to be put on hold when a customer is standing right in front of you. Oh, how I wish I could just hang up on you!
4. Having the same conversations over and over again! To be honest I really don't even want to talk to you right now, or have this fake ass smile on my face!
5. Always having to have a smile on your face. I promise I'm not as happy as I may look!
6. Customers not understanding that sometimes, mistakes happen. I am a human being, we all mess up sometimes!
7. Having the boss from hell, it's their way or the highway! Even though I did my job correctly and efficiently, if I don't do it the exact way you do, I'm a piece of shit.
8. Having coworker who don't help out, who bend the rules just enough to screw you over.
9. Having to be at work after closing because a customer is taking forever and half! Not like I'd like to go home or anything!
10. Having shitty hours and more shifts than you asked for. Just because we don't have enough workers, doesn't mean I want to pick up every shift that you cant cover, oh great boss of mine!
11. Not having time for a social life. It gets old saying, "I can't I have work..." Every day of the week!
12. Having that lazy costumer who can't do anything for themselves... no please I'll get that, it's no problem at all!
I enjoy my job don't get me wrong... but sometimes all I have to say is IT GETS OLD!
For example, you are never stopped by people in the mall trying to sell you stuff, and it's secretly fun to hear that someone was a little intimidated by you when you first met.
That being said, the downside is that people always think you hate them and social events are tragic because you always looked pissed off or bored. In the end, no matter how extreme your RBF is, you probably encounter/have encountered a handful of these 11 situations.
1. When you meet new people, they automatically assume you hate them or are rude.
But the whole time you talked to them you tried really hard to seem happy and friendly and genuinely thought you pulled it off.
2. People are constantly asking you if you're OK.
And you can't help but roll your eyes, which probably doesn't help your case.
3. After being friends with someone for a while, they confess to you, "I thought you were so mean when I first met you," or, "I thought you hated me."
Not like you haven't heard that before. It's expected and doesn't even come as a surprise anymore.
4. You get told to smile more, but they don't understand how scary that would be.
You smiling 24/7 is way worse than your mean face. Trust me.
5. You're always labeled as seeming "judgy."
You gave up on trying to convince everyone that it's just your face!
6. Passing a friend with your RBF in full force and not realizing you just shot them a death glare.
Whoops. Better go send them an apology text.
7. Being sarcastic, but everyone thinks you're outright rude.
Probably because your face doesn't really signal that you're joking, but you've learned to make it clear you're just kidding by laughing obnoxiously.
8. Not knowing how mean you really look until you see a picture of yourself in resting face.
And you think, "maybe that's why people don't talk to me..."
9. Your apologies never sound sincere because of your emotionless face.
It's a cold world out there for people with RBF.
10. Your "mad face" scares you.
*shudders*
11. And, lastly, people are constantly asking you if you are happy or having a good time because you look bored to death.
"I can't repeat it enough that it is just my face."
1. "Is Elle Woods your spirit animal?"
She could be, but who doesn’t love a self-driven woman with an ambitious mindset to destroy a man, but I digress.
2. "Is that your natural hair color?"
So funny you asked! Actually, my hair is dirty blonde but platinum blonde seems more fitting for me.
3. "Oh wow, you get good grades at school?"
Yes, when I’m not dying my hair I’ll take the occasional trip to the library …
4. "You must really like the color pink!"
Hmmm, think what you want, but black more or less suits me since it matches my soul.
5. "You’re probably not into sports, right?"
*Watches football*
“What inning is this?!”
LOL, just kidding; I’m very into sports and I know the difference between them.
6. "You must have such a bubbly personality."
If you count having a resting bitch face and being completely unapproachable as I hide behind my sunglasses "bubbly," then yes, I have a bubbly personality.
7. "Your wardrobe must consist of all things preppy."
Maybe it would if I was vacationing in Nantucket for the summer; however, I probably own more workout apparel than anything.
8. "What sorority are you in?"
*Rolls eyes so far that they get stuck in the back if your head*
9. "You were probably a cheerleader in high school."
Actually, I played soccer and ran track.
10. "You look like you’re from L.A. because your hair is so light."
I didn’t know geographic locations were defined by hair color! News to me …
11. "You definitely like Pumpkin Spiced Lattes from Starbucks!"
Wrong — you picked the wrong stereotype to assume. I’m a regular at Starbucks thank you very much.
12. "Do you actually think blondes have more fun?"
Probably.
13. "You must encompass the typical “white girl” stereotype."
And if I do…?
14. "Is that daddy’s credit card you’re using?"
No, it’s mine! I work hard for the money.
15. "So all of your friends are blonde too?"
Maybe if they came to the salon with me to dye their hair they would be.
16. "I’m surprised about you; I thought you would be a lot ditsier."
I’m surprised about you, too! I thought you would be a lot smarter.
Here are 17 moments that dukes experience in a year at JMU as told by Bob's Burgers:
1. When you get your acceptance letter
2. When you try to figure out how class enrollment works
Sadly, this isn't just a freshman thing.
3. When it’s move in day
4. When you arrive on campus and see all of the attractive people
5. FROG Week
Arguably the best part of freshman year.
6. When you find your squad
7. When you visit DHall (RIP) or EHall for the first time
8. When you take on way too many credits
"I can handle 20 credits, right?"
9. When you go to your first party at JMU
10. When the rival school shows up for the homecoming game (or any game really)
JMU pride runs deep.
11. Sunday Brunch
12. When you see the infamous “preacher” for the first time
13. The first snow day
Shout out to Snowmaggedon 2016.
14. Madipalooza
15. When finals week rolls around
It really is that bad.
16. When you have to say goodbye
17. And when you finally get to go back
A year at JMU is a wild ride. You'll meet so many new people and experience so many new things. It can and most likely will be overwhelming at first. You want to see and do everything as soon as you get there. Remember, you have all year (four of them in fact) to experience all of the amazing things at JMU. Seize the year and make it special. Find your place, your people, and your passions. Everything will come together when you learn how to utilize all that JMU has to offer and make it a second home.
Remember, your college experience is unique. But there will be many moments in your career at JMU that you'll get to experience with everyone around you . Embrace those shared moments and all they have to offer. Don't overlook the little moments and be adventurous. Find an adventure in the little things. Take pictures and write things down (but don't forget to also live in the moment). When things look down, remember that they'll always come back up. Step outside of your comfort zone. Meet new people, try new things, and be grateful that you go to the very best school.
Go Dukes!
For other people, their birthday is the best day of the year. They celebrate the week before and after, and love having a huge party to celebrate. Here's a laundry list of just about everything that can happen on your birthday.
1. Your family and friends ask what you want for your birthday, so you give them a list of options.
2. You're super excited about your birthday the week before.
3. Your family flies in town to celebrate with you.
4. Your siblings wake you up.
5. Your friends are so excited to be with you on your big day.
6. If you work, your office might throw a party for you.
7. For your actual party, you plan a small get-together with close family and friends ...
8. ... or large celebration with everyone you know.
9. You eat the best meal you've had in weeks.
10. You devour the first piece of cake proudly.
11. You embarrass yourself somehow.
12. You get the present you really wanted but thought no one would get you.
13. You are a little sad about getting older.
14. That feeling wears off and you realize how happy you are to have family and friends to celebrate this day with you.
15. The morning after your birthday looks something like this.
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