First, delete his number out of your phone. Forget about the cute little emojis you let him pick out to save next to his contact name. Delete. Delete. Delete. And never save again. You’re not using it. You shouldn’t be anyway. You don’t need to feel the constant urge to text him or constantly check your phone. Do not talk to him because there is nothing to be said from empty conversation and you’ll honestly just feel worse when he doesn’t respond. And if he does respond, 9 out of 10 times it won't be the response you're looking for. You have to do this for you. Not for anyone. For you. If you delete his number, then you’ll have no way to contact him. Unless you have his number memorized. Then, you're screwed.
Unfollow him on all social media. Take his username out of your bio on Twitter. Take your anniversary date off of Instagram. Delete the first picture that you two ever took together as a couple on your first date at the city carnival. Change your relationship status to single on Facebook, so it no longer says that you are in a relationship with him. Delete him off of Snapchat because you don't need to see what girl he's dancing with at that party. You do not need to know what he’s doing point blank period. If you’re constantly watching him on social media, it’ll only make moving on harder. You're going to keep up with the things going on in his life and be upset that you're not a part of it. Be good to yourself. Be good to yourself. Be good to yourself. Don't purposely bring yourself down by keeping him on social media. Know that your mental and emotional health matter so much more. Constantly tell yourself this. With time, you will start to believe it.
Keep yourself busy. I repeat. Keep yourself busy. Take your little sister shopping because lord knows you haven’t spent much time with her since you’ve gotten in a relationship. Sit outside and get lost in a good book. Plan a movie night with the girls. Blast Young Thug in your room and rap to every part of his songs until you pass out. Take your mom out to dinner. Go to a party and get to know a boy you just met. Plan a fun date with your best friend. Do not sit around in your pajamas all day in bed watching romance movies and wishing you had the unrealistic love story that those characters have. Go out and enjoy life. You’re young and beautiful. Life is too short to be sad over someone who doesn’t care about you, especially a stupid boy.
Delete every picture and video you have together on your phone. Delete every picture and video you have of him. You don’t need them. You don’t need a constant reminder of how good it used to be because the harsh reality is, it’s not good anymore. Once you let go of the memories and special moments, you will let go of him. Choose your current happiness over past memories.
Give him back all his stuff or give it away. Do not wear his favorite soccer hoodie that he gave you to keep you warm the first time you went to one of his games. Get rid of the gigantic teddy bear that he bought you for your sixth month anniversary that you still have in your closet. Get rid of the t-shirts that smell of his cologne. Throw away all the little notes that he once left you in your coat pocket, backpack, and locker. Get rid of it all. Jewelry might be a different story, but what do you need the rest of it for? These things will only continue to remind you of the way things once were between you two. However, you don't need to keep ties to the things he gave you.
Do not keep in contact with his friends. This is something that we all struggle with. Just because we're not together anymore doesn't mean I can't still talk to his boys, right? WRONG. Those are his friends, not yours. You met them through him. You only had any interaction with them because of him. Keeping in contact with his friends will do you no good. You'll be tempted to ask them about what he's been up to and on small occasions you might even have to see him. If you're asking his friends about him, 9 times out of 10 they will report back to him and it won't be good for you. Don't do it to yourself. Be thankful for the people in his circle you met and move on.
Most importantly, know your worth and never forget it. You. Are. Whole. Without. Him. You can’t afford to let his preference make you think less of yourself. You’re gold. You’re gold. But some people prefer silver and that’s okay. You’ve got to embrace change and welcome challenges. You need to love yourself more fiercely than anyone ever could. You’ve got to save yourself. Live for you. Honor you. Never lose sight of that. Some boys don’t know how to love a women, so it’s time to stop missing him. It might take a long time. Don’t expect to wake up one morning and never think of him again. You’ll move on, but there will be days where you miss him. Don’t call. Don’t text. Don’t go looking for him on social media. You’ve come so far, girl. You’ll learn that he isn’t the end of everything. If he doesn't see your worth, then he never deserved you in the first place. Keep it pushing. Either you win or you learn, but you never lose. Do not let him see your tears. Do not fall apart in front of him. Pick yourself up. Keep going. Love like you have never been hurt. He’s just another stupid boy; I promise you he won’t be the last. You are a Queen, so even when they push you, don’t take the crown off.
