Not all relationships are meant to last, whether you like it or not. That is the truth, and it's definitely a sad truth which is difficult to hear and exceptionally difficult to accept. This is because, as human beings, most of us try to see the good in people, but this is dangerous because not all people are as good as we would like to believe. We all enter relationships -- at one point or another in our lives -- whether it is family, friendly, intimate or professional. What many people do not realize is that you actually do not know what you are in for when entering a relationship. There is no contract stating terms and agreements when you enter it, but even if there was I do not doubt that we would all scroll to the very bottom right away pretending as if we have read it, and there is no knowing what this relationship will hold. You do not know what it is going to ask from you, take away from you, expect of you and how it may positively or negatively affect you. You do not know, and you will not know until the relationship is at its peak or its downfall. Scary, isn't it?
We have all heard the phrase, "benefit of the doubt," but for the ones that have not, it means to believe the good in a person regardless of what others have to say about them. You decide that you want to form your own opinion on someone based off the way in which they portray themselves. Although giving someone benefit of the doubt can be ideal in some situations, it is not true that the outcome will be positive in all cases. Just because you give someone the benefit of the doubt does not mean that the impression you are given at first will last throughout the entire relationship. In most cases, the person you meet in the beginning turns out to be a completely different person in the end. It leaves you questioning many things and doubting yourself, as well as the relationship you once had with this person. Since many people aim for a good first impression, it is difficult to tell whether it is a sincere and genuine first impression or an intentionally hidden form of deception.
Unfortunately, sometimes it is the latter and in most cases you don't see it coming. If you did, you would have avoided it, right?
It is unfair, but it is life. Life tends to emphasize the idea that all relationships are not permanent and that many people will walk into your life, but at the same time, many people will exit it as well. People come and go but it is up to you to decide who is worthy enough to stay. Who adds value to your life rather than removes it? Who does not take away from your spirit, but helps you ignite it? Who would make sure they are there for you when you have a bad day? Who rejoices in your success and does not envy you from afar? Who can you trust with all of your secrets? Who can you say you know that will go to the ends of the earth to make sure you are happy? Who is that person for you?
If you imagined someone while reading those questions, you definitely have a genuine, sincere, and kind hearted person in your life who is meant to be there and wants to be there. Failure to realize this can impact your relationship negatively so please, if you are fortunate enough to have someone like that in your life, don't forget it because a relationship you can truly be yourself in without fear of judgment is rare, and it is honestly a blessing to have. If you are one of the few that can truly say you have it, treasure it and do not forget to make sure your person knows it, because even the best relationships can crumble simply because one does not put enough effort in, and who honestly wants to end a relationship because of that?
