So you broke up and now you’re here. It’s not going to be easy or fun, hell it’s going to suck for awhile. Eventually things will be okay, you’ll work your way up to feeling fine, and then one day it won’t even cross your mind.
Until that long awaited day comes, here are a few things to help you out.
Cry and cry a lot. We have all been there and it does not do you any good to hold in those tears. Give yourself the time to grieve your relationship. Whether it lasted six months or six years, it took up a piece of your life and you are allowed to feel sad.
It’s okay to miss them. You might not think you will right now but life has a funny way of working and there will be a day where you find yourself wishing they were there with you. Accept that feeling but also remind yourself that you broke up for a reason.
Let yourself feel every emotion. Once the sadness passes you’ll get hit by a truck full of emotions. One day you will wake up feeling on top of the world, and by lunch you’re a type of hangry that even a burrito can't fix. This is the most annoying stage of a breakup, but as long as you acknowledge what is going on, you’ll survive it too.
Don't “check up” on them. First off, this will not do you any good. Their lives aren't going as great as they make it out to be. Crazy enough, they're going through the breakup too. Do yourself the favor and cut all ties with them as soon as you gather the strength to. You’ll find out that once they aren’t a click away, you lose interest.
Whatever you do, don’t push other people away. Your mom and dad checking up on you might seem annoying but that’s their way of letting you know they are there for you. Take your friends up on that offer to talk about it. Losing one relationship shouldn't cause you to lose them all.
Rediscover your old passions or find new ones. Get that yoga flow down, train for that marathon you've been talking about, take a cooking class. Find something that peaks your interest and try it out. Not only is this a great distraction but it will improve your quality of life. Don't let them leaving you stop your world for too long.
Don’t stay bitter. This all happened for a reason. Cheesy as it may sound, it’s true. Let yourself come out of this breakup as a stronger, life loving, whatever you want to call yourself person. Life goes on and you don’t want to be lingering on to the past while the present is reaching out to you.
