College is a journey better not traveled alone. Naturally people look for moral support as well as companionship through all the exciting, new, terrifying, dangerous crazy situations that arise. When your #squad all mobs through to a party and takes a cool pic, you post it on Instagram for #squadgoals and so that all may gaze upon the photo in utter jealousy. But what makes the perfect squad? What makes a group dynamic work? Arguably, a group of people who all have the same personality type are going to clash. Or if everyone is too different then the group may not work either because there is a disconnect in communication and interests. In the ideal group, each person takes on their own role to allow cohesion and diversity.
These are the roles each person takes on within in a group, as told by the ABBA song titles. Why ABBA? Because ABBA is great.
1. "I Do, I Do, I Do, I Do, I Do"
This is the initiator who actually gets everyone together to do things. The person who makes a decision when people can't decide where to go out or what to eat. The necessity of some direction is essential to actually be a productive squad. Rather than just sitting around, the initiator makes sure the group gets out in the world and finds a good time. They really do DO DO DO DO DO.
2. "The Name Of The Game"
They know the game of life and they know how to play. This is the problem solver. Although all people in the group may give advice when there is a problem, there is always the one person who has the best advice. This person solves the problems the group may face. They mediate the internal fights and in general seem to have the answer.
3. "I'm a Marionette"
The one who goes with the flow and doesn't start drama. This is the person who is down to just chill or someone who is down to go out. They are the marionette not in the sense they are a pushover, but rather because they are fine with doing anything. The chill one will feel perfectly content with most things the squad decides as long as they are hanging out and squadding up.
4. "Knowing Me, Knowing You"
They know me, they know you and they know everyone. This person is the opposite of the chill one. This person knows all the gossip and drama in and out of the group. There's always something knew in their life guaranteed to come with a story. They live up to their title with their eventful life in drama over relationships, gossip, awkwardness and everything else.
5. "Dancing Queen"
Young and sweet and... Feeling seventeen, this person brings the party to wherever they are at, because whether the squad is having a chill night in or a night out it is always a wild time with this one. They bring the fun to all situations with their positive, raging personality. They are the ones dancing to no music because life is just a party always.
6. "Man In The Middle"
Similarly to the problem-solver, this person is one of the go tos for when an issue arises. This person, differs from the problem-solver though because more than anything this person gives support. Whether they agree with the choices or the situation, this person is always going to be there available to comfort and assist. This is the friendly ear people seek when they have had a bad day and the one who always makes the time to show their full support.
7. "Slipping Through My Fingers"
If you want to find this person, check the lost and found.They start the night with you, but surely enough they "slip through your fingers" and then are nowhere to be found. Eventually they come back. They always come back. #whereswalter
8. "Should I Laugh or Should I Cry"
Roasted. The one in the group who makes it too easy to pick on them. This person seems to always be at the butt of every joke, but in a light-hearted funny way. The jokes just flow from every aspect of this person's life whether it's past, present future, their habits, their history and their constant everyday struggles. This person is the trooper who puts up with the constant mockery done in love. All joking aside though, everyone is appreciative of all the laughs this role brings to the group.
9. "Mamma Mia"
"He we go again- my my"- says Mom as we go out and get too crazy... This is the domesticated, soothing motherly voice who regularly takes care of the group. The "mom" takes care of everyone and keeps them in line and out of trouble. When things go wrong, Mom is the one who you can trust. (S/O TO DUDE PARTY AKA MOM <3)
10. "S.O.S"
They are kind of a mess but you love them anyway. This is the friend that says and does things that they probably shouldn't. Their filter doesn't seem to work as well as it should. Sometimes they go a little overboard with the decisions they make and can get a little out of hand. But, when all is said and done, at the end of the day, you love 'em. They do the things that just make you say "Ah that's just typical _____". They may be a hot mess, but they are your hot mess.
In looking at all the roles in the perfect squad, it is important to remember these are not set standards. Yes, certain people may fall into some roles more than others, but at the end of the day each individual plays one of these roles at some point. The best groups embrace the individuality of each member and don't let them sink into one role. Rather than looking at people for their roles, although comical, look at the person beyond that.... Who is your #squad? How do you find them?
Find the people that bring excitement or stability.
Find the people who bring to you something unique that you need or maybe something you don’t know you need.
Find the people who make you feel like the best version of you.
Find the people you click with and don’t let them go.