Are we ready for the next level of sex games? Here are some suggestions so you can master the art of role-playing in the bedroom. Trust me, you’ll end up finding this much more fun and wanting to play dress up much more after this one.

1. Boundaries. First and foremost, the most important thing I always stress is the creation and discussion of boundaries. This should happen way before role-play even becomes a thought or attempted. Questions that could be asked are – what are you and your partner willing to do? How far should the sexual fantasy take you? What don’t you want to happen? What freaks you out and what turns you on? It’s all about creating a safe space, where you can trust and respect each other. Nonetheless, remember that the idea of role-playing is to have fun and enjoy this Oscar-Award Winning moment – so let your imaginations go to a galaxy far far away and don’t be afraid to about sharing. This is no time to shy away.
2. Committing to the role. As an actor myself, nothing is as important as committing to the character. It is the most vital aspect of role-playing and creating that commitment becomes meaningful. It all becomes delicious, climatic and cinematic for you and your partner. This all means hanging your inhibitions at the door. There is nothing as sexy as a French maid rolling their eyes and saying she/he/they feel stupid. Just accept the fact that you are spicing up the sex a bit and having fun. Keep in mind that you are creating a fantasy world and laughing to their face will bring you both back to ‘reality’.
3. Script it! Write your own script or buy it. By being fully prepared (an actor prepares), there is a chance of having less of an awkward feeling. It doesn’t give room to say comments. Princess Leia and Darth Vader can definitely be a thing, well a weird incestuous thing.
4. Rehearse. Again, rehearsals help actors be better at a role and there are no exceptions here. Practice always makes perfect, for the moment of course. The more effort and time you put into creating this world, the better the experience. It takes away the pressure off of your “first time” actually role playing. Accept that it will be weird and awkward and as time goes it will become more comfortable.
5. The Character. Who are you trying to be? Without knowing who you are, the fantasy will quickly dissolve. That can only get messy and unwanted for both your partner and yourself. Develop this character in your mind. Give it a name, gender, clothing, manner of walking and talking, give it a birthday, a family history – create the role. Once you find that character, don’t break away from it once you began. It will destroy all you worked on. If you are a pirate or pilot, change your walk once you entered into the room. You stick to it until the “play” or “act” is over.

This will take time to perfect so don’t worry if you don’t the first few times, overtime it’ll be amazing to orgasm with Jack Sparrow or Harry Potter – I laughed writing that he-he.

Like always with love, J.