Relationships these days seem to be hard to come across and even harder to manage, but there’s one thing guys should be doing to make their relationships better: returning the favor. Yeah, that’s right. We’re talking about that today. This one simple act of foreplay is the key to maintaining a relationship, because it shows your lady you care about her needs.
I’ve asked many gentlemen why they don’t tongue dance down south, and the reasons are juvenile. Before I jump in to explaining why the top three reasons are unacceptable reasons, you should be aware that this is completely serious, and you better make sure you keep your big boy or big girl pants on for the remainder of our time together, because we’re adults, right? Anyway, it’s an aspect that young guys should be performing to maintain their relationships.
“It seems like I have to be down there for a while for anything to happen, so I get bored.”
What? I forgot I was asking children this question. How are you getting bored down south? It baffles me, because there’s so much going on and it gets overlooked by those who aren’t educated properly or don’t know what they’re doing. Perhaps you’re not that in tune with her body, or maybe you need to switch up your technique. Get creative. Get fun, but most importantly, be in sync with your bodies.
“When I’m down there I’m the inferior one.”
Nope. Wrong. All wrong.If you feel making your way downtown puts you in a submissive place, please never speak to me. The person receiving the pleasure is the submissive one, as they’re allowing you to take control. As I previously mentioned, it’s important when you’re down there to be in tune with her body and how you’re making her feel. You’re in control of making her feel all kinds of sensations, which puts you in a dominant position. Brief eye contact is easily the best assertion of dominance, so use it, but not too much, because that’s weird and you’ll digress from your duties. This is my least favorite response from guys, and I’m glad I’m done talking about it.
“But what about the smell?”
Let’s get one thing straight: you probably smell just as bad, if not worse. You shouldn’t complain about her odor unless it’s something that a gynecologist should check out. Before you begin any fooling around, smell check yourself so you have a gauge of what scent you’re bringing to the table (or room, wherever you prefer). If she’s willing to and you’re aware that you don’t smell pleasant, 10 times out of 10, you should reciprocate. Once you get in the swing of things and have some consistency going on, you’ll forget what it smells like. However, boys and girls, never feel uncomfortable asking your counterpart to take a quick shower, because clean bodies are happy bodies. By no means should you always ask for them to shower, but both of you should be aware of yourselves.
Communication is key to intimacy, and ultimately, you’ll be successful with stellar communication skills in and outside of the room (or table, if you’re into that).
