Dear Outcast,
As millennials, your generation has developed a since of entitlement -- you despise this I assume. The pure gratification you feel from saying "no" is enough to fuel your post-pubescent induced angst. That is just it though, as an outcast you don't feel the entitlement that the rest of your generation does. In the words of Ado Annie Carnes from the Broadway Musical Oklahoma! "I (you) CAIN'T say no." You are hyper-aware of the problems encasing the world -- which is not a problem, but you feel minuscule in comparison to the "common people" so you sit back, relax, and watch the chaos progress.
I am here to tell you, things happen and people change. It is not your job to make every single person in your life happy. Ask yourself, "What am I actually gaining from pushing myself to please everyone?" I can almost guarantee that the list is nowhere near extensive. Then again, why would bettering others not benefit you? Hypothetically speaking, if they are happy and content then you are too, right? Wrong! You have essentially carved your destiny in stone. Welcome to the rest of your life as a doormat, singlehandedly you have turned your private walkway into a public space for anyone to tread on.
It is your first year out in The Real World, so what could possibly go wrong? There are only an estimated 10,000 people that you will encounter in a lifetime, and if you narrow that down you will encounter a measly 100 people a day. Which could possibly give way to a string of problems, approximately two problems per person (200 individual problems a day). This is a lot for one to take on, but as a doormat you feel obligated to break your back at the snap of a finger.
By this point in your life, you have more than likely come to the conclusion that people are placed in your life for a reason, with that you also realize that everything happens for a reason. So no matter the struggles you go through, you must remember that life will go on. There is no need to sit in the rain when you could be dancing in the puddles.
Sincerely,
The Outcast