A few weeks ago, I found out a guy I was previously "talking" to had a girlfriend. He and his girlfriend had been together for several months, and she cared for him pretty deeply. Girls talk. I have no idea why he thought she wouldn't find out. In case you didn't know, GIRLS FIND EVERYTHING OUT. The thing was, he had me under the impression that they had been broken up for over a month. I came to find out that wasn't true. And then everything dawned on me around that same time. I realized that everything he had said to me was a lie. He is nothing more than a scumbag liar who used me and cheated on her.
I have never had respect for cheaters. Some people say that they understand why cheaters would cheat. I don't understand those people. I grew up in a home where my parents split because he cheated. It ruined my life, and it took me a substantial amount of time to put the pieces back together. It still affects me today.
I have a few things I would like to say to all of the people out there who think it's okay to cheat on their significant other.
First, IT'S NOT OKAY. AT ALL. Not even a little bit. I've been cheated on before, and let me tell you, it sure doesn't feel good. It made me feel pretty freaking awful. Many times, the victim in the situation feels like it's their fault. Newsflash: It's not. Nothing about another person's actions is your fault. That person makes their own decisions. And if they really think cheating on you is okay after everything you've given them, you deserve better anyway.
Second, cheaters are nothing more than cowards. Maybe they are scared of their own feelings, or maybe they are just incapable of feelings at all. I know that if the roles were reversed, they would feel just as hurt. But, somehow they block out that thought so they can do something so hurtful to their significant other that is tears them apart from the inside out-- and they feel no remorse. It's like they wanted to hurt them. But at the end of the day, they will run away from it. They will lie to cover up what they really did because they refuse to face the consequences. They will do everything to "make it up to you," even though they really don't care about your feelings. If they did, they wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
To the ones who were cheated on, just know it's nothing that you did. Some people are just horrible. They don't take your feelings into account when they are doing these things. They only think about themselves. They are selfish.
Remember that you don't deserve to be treated that way. I was able to walk away, and you should too. They do not deserve to keep you in their life if they choose to treat you that way. Walk away and become stronger from it, and let them suffer the reality of being alone because of their stupid and unjustifiable actions.
You are worth so much more. Keep yourself in mind and so yourself a favor. Leave the scumbag who cheated on you and find someone you sees you as their one and only.
Find someone who deserves your respect.
