I once read a quote from the singer Alecia Moore (better known as P!nk) that said, "Once you figure out what respect tastes like, it tastes better than attention." This has always stuck with me because of the truth of it. When someone knows what it's like to be respected, they usually don't do things solely to get attention. This is one of the most valuable lessons a person can learn, however many people never understand it. It takes some wisdom and maturity to make this discovery, but it's something you'll never unsee. Here are six ways your perspective changes (for the better) when you learn respect is more important than attention.
1. You develop a deeper respect for yourself.
When you realize you are worthy of respect, it spurs a stronger internal respect for yourself.
2. You realize just how fleeting attention is.
Attention is short lived and easily forgotten, and pales in comparison to the longevity of respect. Many people worry about if people like them based off the amount of attention they receive; however, this thought process always leads to disappointment and emptiness.
3. And how long-lasting respect is.
How many times have you been to someone's funeral and heard, "She got a lot of attention; the world is truly at a loss today"? Chances are none, but when someone is well respected, it lasts past beyond mortality.
4. You learn to always value your worth.
Knowing you are worth being respected will make you value yourself. Attention can actually have the opposite effect and leave you feeling empty. Respecting yourself makes you value your energy, passions, and worth and expect others to respect those as well, as they should.
5. You don't feed into pettiness like before.
If we're being honest, we know we can all be petty regardless of how old or mature we are. It's part of human nature. However, once you realize how trivial attention is, you become a lot less likely to engage in petty drama. You know these things lessen the respect people have for you.
6. You realize how much of an honor it is for someone to consider you a role model.
One of the biggest compliments a person can receive is to be looked up to. When someone considers you to be a role model, they think of you with a certain amount of respect that sets you apart from others.