So apparently, when you are going to college and have a boyfriend, you are asking for everyone’s opinion. Here are a few of those remarks that I’ve heard. Not only did I not ask for these people’s opinions, I didn’t care about their opinions either:
1. You’re going that far away?!
Okay, so I was told this because I’m going one single hour away! It only makes me so angry because if I had chosen to go close or where my boyfriend goes, these same people would have said I must have chosen the school because of him. I don’t know why everyone thinks long distance can’t work.
2. I know you love him, but…
You know, just fill this one in with anything that would infuriate you. A few examples are: I know you love him, but there are so many other people; I know you love him, but he could be holding you back. This makes me so angry because if I love him, there isn’t an alternative. You’re not going to convince me to leave him, sorry!
3. You aren’t going to really experience college.
I don’t know who said that college=single, but it’s wrong. I can have friends, join clubs, and even, if I’m feeling really ambitious, go to class. That’s what college is all about, right? Having a boyfriend doesn’t mean that I will only sit in my room and call or text him the whole time. Having a college experience is completely possible with a boyfriend.
4. Maybe you should just think about breaking up, at least for a little bit.
I don’t even remember who exactly said this, but this is probably the worst. I cannot even believe that this was suggested to my face. If I have been with him for so long, why would I break up for college? This actually made me furious.
5. Is he the one?
Okay, this one isn’t too bad. The only reason this one makes me angry is because they automatically assume that because I want to keep my boyfriend that I’m ready to settle down and get married like tomorrow. I want to stay in a relationship with my boyfriend who loves me not rush down to the altar.
If you’re ever thinking about saying this to someone in a relationship, don’t! It’s annoying and unwanted. Instead say something like good luck, I wish you the best! It’s crazy how annoying a little comment can be, and how long it will be remembered.