Relationships are like a recipe for baking. It takes time to rise to the occasion and after you get through all the flour, it makes one sweet confection. Of course, like a pie or Pinterest, no relationship or recipe will be the same. If a relationship could be measured, here are some ingredients to include in your recipe for a healthy relationship.
1. 25% Love
Having love for each other has different definitions for different people. Whatever your meaning of love is, you want to make sure it is your significant other's too. Love needs time to discover itself and requires awareness and dedication, so make time to learn to love. The love that's most important to a relationship is love that is not blindsided by emotions. Being romantic is good, but if it's only sweet nothings or words and not actions, love becomes a bout of empty promises and pure fantasy. Just watch any episode of "The Bachelor" or "The Bachelorette" and try to find true love in a half hour in front of cameras and microphones. Love yourself, love each other, love the relationship.
2. 25% Honesty
One of the biggest priorities in a relationship is honesty. Being able to know how both of you feel is necessary for any kind of relationship to develop and remain. No one has to tell the other everything, but do share what shouldn't be avoided, what can potentially harm, if not you, the other. Something in your past makes you feel uneasy and you think it would be best to keep it to yourself. Meanwhile, your partner thinks everything is fine and does everything to make the relationship work except console you and your past. Don't let one detail jeopardize your well-being or the relationship. Breath, clear the air, be understanding.
3. 25% Compromise
Deciding what to eat, what to do with the afternoon, or some alone time are all events that can strengthen or siphon a relationship. Knowing what each other wants and coming to a reasonable consensus keeps your interests in mind while also catering to the other's interests. Compromise is an opportunity to find out what you don't like and what you do like. Finding an even trade-off by making some sacrifices makes for a happier, healthier, more balanced relationship.
4. 15% Affection
We think of affection as physical signs but it doesn't always have to be. The thought counts too, but don't forget, showing is its own special way of telling. Listening, talking candidly, giving advice, thinking forward and making the day about your significant other every now and then, these are all good ways to show your affection. Thoughtful motives show you care about creating and keeping a relationship. Affection allows you to give, receive, show, and tell your love, honesty, and compromises during small and big moments. Affection creates and recreates your relationship and keeps your relationship consistent and flexible.
5. 10% Sex
Relationships are our need to know in some way that our time and love is being appreciated and acknowledged. Nothing could be sweeter than that. Except sweet potato pie; that's an extra 10% free of charge.
