As humans, we need attention to thrive in this world, but that doesn't mean we should enter relationships in order to fulfill this desire.
We are so quick to fall for someone because they say the right thing at just the right time. It's when we are at our weakest and seeking any bit of reassurance or support that we settle for so much less than we truly deserve. If you have not had this person yet, I assure you one-day you will encounter someone in your life you think is "sweet" or "seems really okay" and all of a sudden they will say the one thing you really needed to hear and poof they quickly become perfect. Sadly in these moments, we are unable to see the ugly truth- they are not right for you but they are convenient.Our society idolizes relationships in a rather strange form. We think the ultimate relationship is one in which you take lots of posed photos, spend every day together, have the same friend groups, and constantly tell each other how much you love your significant other. If you ask me, this sounds like a new form of torture. Yet, when we don't have this seemingly wonderful dynamic in our lives we internalize the issue and somehow deem ourselves unworthy or even hopeless.
Using another person for attention is not okay. Depending on another person for confidence and especially happiness is a dangerous game that always ends in someone getting hurt. In order for one to be happy in a relationship, you have to accept and love yourself first.Before you enter your next relationship or even begin talking to someone who has shown interest in you, I dare you to take a minute and really think if that's what you want. The commitment that comes along with sharing yourself with another, the time and energy that you know are needed to make any good relationship survive. If you think about this and feel like yes, that's what I want, and I am ready, then by all means exit this page and go for it! However, if there is even a small piece of you doubting your intentions do yourself and the other person involved a huge favor and just don't.
