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To The Relationship Hoppers

To those who fall into this category, your friends love you and want the best for you.

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All too often we see girls and guys just flinging from relationship to relationship with no time for stopping.

Personally, I think this is a reflection of themselves and their need to be with someone because they can't be alone. Dependency. Or the famous "Nobody will ever love me besides him."

I don't even know how to tell them that this is such a delusional way of thinking. There are a ton of people out there and you think that guy that has no motivation to do anything is the guy that was brought to this Earth solely to be with you? That's how much you think you matter. Have some standards! You're probably better than you think and don't even realize it.

These relationship hoppers are easy to spot out as they need constant reassurance that they're loved, that you're not cheating, that they're the best looking, etc.

They can be clingy. They can be the non-stop texters. They can even be a doormat and the boyfriend or girlfriend has been out all night and they say nothing to avoid causing confrontation even though they don't like it at all.

I feel for these people but they need some standards. They shouldn't just be settling for anybody because they feel someone else won't ever love them. They're only 19 and crying about this with their whole life ahead of them; plenty of people to meet and see.

Girls and guys both have to be stronger than this. They need to be able to put their foot down when they are being mistreated and communicate about it; it doesn't have to turn into an argument but if you treat that boy or girl like gold and they do something you're really uncomfortable with, you should be able to talk to them without the fear of them leaving you.

If that's your fear, you are definitely not meant to be with this person and are just wasting your time. If you can't talk to them about how they come home drunk every night then how will you talk to them about a house, taxes, kids, etc.?

Stop settling for people you don't like that much because you think you're #foreveralone or because you think nobody else will like you! You're not doing a favor to them. You're just wasting their time and deep down you know you're wasting your own time too.

It's not fair to them and it's not fair to you. Stop half-assing these relationships because of your fear of being alone. Of nobody ever loving you. You are better than that. You are worth more than that. You just need to believe that.

The relationship hoppers really annoy me as you can see, due to their lack of commitment and the fact that every guy they meet is "the one." No, he is not, Susan, you'll be broken up in a couple weeks.

That's what I think to myself every time I hear the whole new spiel about their new significant other. "He wants three kids, just like me!" and all I can think is WHY ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT KIDS YOU'VE BEEN DATING HIM A WEEK?! YOU SAID THAT ABOUT ANTHONY LAST WEEK!

That's all I can think, but they don't learn and instead make it hard for their friends who know that their bestie is worth more but instead are wasting their time with losers and players and the guys who are also relationship hoppers.

You need to have some self-awareness and need to start to be okay with being alone.

The year that I was single was the best year of my life: I met totally new people, did totally new and adventurous things, went on vacation when I felt like it, made new friends and, overall, had the best time ever.

This is what it should be for you, not moping around that you're single and nobody will ever love you. I was totally okay with being single and sure, guys asked to be in a relationship, but I wasn't prepared to hop into a new one. I wanted my time to be alone, to be me, and to rejuvenate in my life.

I was totally happy and that's what I wish for my friends when they get out of their relationships; instead of jumping into a whole new ship, wait a bit.

See what else — or who else — is in store for you.

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