There are pictures all over social media about people who are "relationship goals." I'm here to tell you that they these people actually aren't something you should strive for in a functional relationship. It's sad, but true. There really truly is no relationship that is perfect or "goals." Here's why.
Millions of people are on social media every single day, whether they are posting or just looking at their feeds. Often times, people even tend to find their self-worth based solely on how many followers they have or how many likes they get on a picture. This greatly includes how many people post about their new boyfriend or girlfriend all the time. I am absolutely not saying that posting about a significant other is bad, but it is the motives behind why you are posting. Personally, I post about my boyfriend quite often because I love him and I want others to know what an amazing person he is.
The reason why "relationship goals" are fake is because the relationships on social media are absolutely not what they are like in real life. Often times I will have people tell me that they wish they had a boyfriend because they wish they could post cute pictures like me and have a boyfriend who spoils them. That is great and all, but it is so much more work than just finding someone and spending money on them.
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two and a half years now and the relationship we have today is far different than the one we had two and a half years ago. It takes growing, selflessness, humility, love, and so much more to create a relationship and environment that is healthy and one worth of being in. What you see on my Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook posts is only a small fraction of who we are. You do not see the fights, arguments, crying, disappointment, and other family and life issues that come our way.
This is how every single relationship is out there. It takes work. Lots of work. And I do not say that because dating my boyfriend is hard, I say that because it has taken putting him first far before any of my needs, and sometimes doing things I really do not want to do.
This is why "relationship goals" are fake. People compare their current situations to the ones that they only see 1% of on social media. They believe that as long as they have a boyfriend who wants to buy them stuff, they will finally have the "goals" they see everywhere else, and they always forget that there is 99% of that relationship that they are not seeing.
So next time you see a couple on social media that looks so cute together, and they just seem too perfect, it really is not as perfect as it looks. One of them could be cheating on the other, or they could have been in a huge argument yesterday, and you would have never even known because a picture cannot tell you everything about their relationship.
