Yep, it happened. He doesn't like you according to your friend's friend's boyfriend. She said no after you spray painted "Prom?" on the snow. It's embarrassing. It's horrifying. Now you hate Valentines Day, teddy bears, the color pink, and chocolate (that will go away soon and you will start eating it after the heartbreak settles in). To say the least, rejection sucks. It hurts. You start questioning who you are, why you even liked them if you were so blind that they never liked you, and you are also thinking you are ugly. You think that there is no way you would ever be in their league. There's no way!
How about you breathe, then? How about you love rejection? How about you think of rejection as something so beautiful that it makes your confidence rise? Rejection feels rejected by us. It's time to give it some love! Want to know why?
When you find out he doesn't like you through your branches of communication, you should feel good. He rejected you because he doesn't know you. He is scared of how awesome you are! He's only seen you because you sit across class. If he actually saw you and talked to you, he'd be begging for you. Tell yourself that rejection is great. You know you are hot stuff and he does not! It's great! Go eat chocolate because you are happy, run around on Valentine's Day because you are single, and buy a pink teddy bear for yourself because it is cute and you would never reject something cute! Rejection means he doesn't know you. Do not reject yourself. Rejection also opens the door to someone who does want you. You would have been blinded by him if he accepted you, and you would not see the boy who sits right behind you. He likes you, but you have been too busy drooling. Rejection is bringing you back to earth and opening your eyes. Rejection is the only friend that will be real with you.
When she says no to your crazy proposals, you might just be scaring her. Acceptance is about the simple thing. Rejection is telling you to cool it. She may not like being put on the spot, and rejection is telling you to re-think your approach and do some research. Really find out if she likes you, or you only see her because she likes your best friend. Rejection is your buddy, patting you on the back, and saying to go out there and find another girl. Rejection is a second chance. It tells you to think clearly, make an action plan, and it makes you save your energy to give crazy proposals to a girl who would love it.
In the end, we owe rejection a thank you. We should laugh with it, keep it in our memories, and know that it is reality. We live in fantasy and rejection is a cold breathe of air. In the end, it is better for us. We have an uncomfortable high school experience in the back of our minds, making us giggle. We move on from rejection. Rejection is our true valentine.
