Tis the season and tis the new year! Hopefully, everyone is returning to work or school very refreshed, I know I am. It is January everybody. The time does go so fast. This past year of 2016 seemed to be a long one (which I was saying the opposite last month).

I thought the year had gone quickly and the holiday season even quicker. In all reality, when I think of my life in February of 2016, things have done a complete 360 since then. I have transformed, my life, my job, everything has changed and a lot of us are not in the same place — mentally or quite literally in the same place...as in same town. I recall things I did in March and I don't know how it was so long ago... but things last January seemed like three years ago. Ah, the essence of time.

Everyone is going to be in different places in their life, some not so different and some drastically different. It is important to remember that whether you think the entire year of 2016 was not so good or you loved 2016, why break it down? As I reflect, I realize I am not putting labels on an entire year anymore. There are bad days and good days, like any other month and any other year.

As Carrie Bradshaw puts it, "You're always looking for a job, a boyfriend or an apartment. So, let's say you have 2 out of 3 and they're fabulous. Why do we let the thing we don't have affect how we feel about all the things we do have? Why does one minus a plus one feel like it adds up to zero?"

So, instead of making a new years resolution list; that everyone just assumes won't be accomplished (even though many people truly do accomplish these goals, especially starting gym memberships...) I cannot help but ask myself, why not make this a resolution? I.E. Attempt to not judge or label everything. Why include all daily and weekly events into one category?

Perhaps a better resolution would be to find a way to pause time. I do not mean actually try and make time stand still, but work a way in your head to control your being, your time and your experiences.

These are a few of my thoughts and sometimes seeing something in another way only helps with your way, even if you stick to it. The analyzing can make a person think twice, but better.

A new year is always a good time to plan. People attempt to map out the new year but in all reality, things change. So, why not use the planning as a work or school week to yearly agenda? Get excited to go back to work, or convince yourself you are. Figure out a successful plan, after all, it is that much more rewarding when you take off the end of the year! (I am all about being spontaneous to a degree) A good idea may be to map out your personal happiness and how to reach it. Find out how to accomplish each week with a relaxing weekend. What more do you need to do?

I won't condemn 360 days to a few bad days or few bad months. Whether I went through life changing and heart breaking situations, with losing a mom or something else... or if I had the happiest days of my life. The point is, the hand that is dealt per day is not an entire year's milestone. It is not the feeling that lasted the year — unless in your case it is.

What makes one tick? What is it about time and a plan?