One of the hardest things we have to deal with when growing up is the chance that we outgrow some friends. Whether one of you is moving on in life and the other is stuck or something happens and you decide to stop hanging out, losing a friendship is almost usually harder than going through a break-up.

The friendships we make in high school or other short-term situations are usually the first to go and usually the hardest. In high school a lot of times you go to different colleges or decide to take different career paths, making it easy to lose contact with those ones you were most close to.

But the good news is there are steps you can take to reconnect with the ones you may have lost that connection with.

The first thing to do, and this may sound crazy but it does help, is to check out their social media sites. Check out what they are into nowadays and what they may be doing with their lives. After that just send them a message on said social media site. Send them something funny that may be an inside joke between you two or comment on something they recently achieved, getting married, graduating or having a baby are great ways to get a conversation going.

Next, you should ask them on a little date, grab dinner or take a class together. Just like a real first date you want to go somewhere where you can connect again and talk.

Now, unfortunately sometimes its best to not reconnect and let what was meant to be. There are times when moving on from a failing friendship are what is best for your mental and emotional health. When the friend you are thinking about moving on from is causing unnecessary drama or is doing things that you just do not agree with, it may be time to move on.

I have to admit I have experienced both of these situations. After not hanging out with my best friend for years we reconnected and now we see each other almost more than ever! Our relationship has grown and is better than it could ever be, and I get to stand by her when she gets married next month.

While on the other hand, I have a friend, that after some very unnecessary drama, I moved on from quickly, and it saved my sanity 100%!