If you’ve ever been in a relationship, chances are you’ve been through a break up. But what comes after the numerous pints of Ben and Jerry’s? The dreaded rebound. Whether you’re newly single just trying to get it over with or the naïve party-of-one looking for your soul mate, it can get messy. Dating these days has become hard enough. You can’t have the DTR conversation unless you’re fearless and don’t care if your new date thinks you’re crazy. So what happens after three months of casual dating and then you find out that you’re a rebound? Isn’t dating now just an endless cycle of rebounds? Is it possible to move from rebound to relationship?
1. If you’re into it and don’t want anything serious, then go for it! Embrace it.
2. If you’re not okay with causal dating then you need to decide if they’re worth it. If you’re not 100 percent into them, especially after dating for a few months, then why waste your time any longer.
3. As much as it sucks, you should ask about the ex. Rip off the band aid. How long were they together? Who dumped who? Has there been contact since?
4. Then never talk about it again. Except to your friends. Obviously a social media stalking is in order, but be careful about comparisons -- and remember social media isn’t real.
5. Have the DTR conversation, as awkward as it is, you should feel much better after it. Make sure you are honest and tell your true feelings.
6. If they have reservations about not knowing if they want a relationship or not and its been a few months, you should reevaluate your situation. If you think one day it could happen, then by all means – go ahead. But if you’re anything like me, I believe you should follow your gut. If its been three months and they can’t commit to you, will they ever?
7. Trust yourself. If they don’t want what you want, then you should choose yourself. Don’t be with someone for the sake of being with someone. It is okay to be alone. I’d rather be happy alone, then constantly worrying if I was with someone that had lingering feelings for an ex.
