As women, we are so quick to apologize for wanting more. We are so quick to accept the minimum amount of effort, the minimum amount of time, and the minimum amount of care. We stop having standards and expectations simply because we feel like we will be labeled as being too "needy" or "clingy" or even too "high maintenance". And then what happens? We wind up hating the relationships we are in because we feel as though we are not being praised or loved enough for everything we do.
Relationships are a balancing act. They are all about having appropriate boundaries, and always giving as much as the other person does. Based on personal experience as well as observations, some of the most successful relationships occur when both individuals have a life outside of their relationship. What does that mean, exactly? That means doing things without the other person. It can be going out for an evening with your friends, spending time with coworkers, or simply having hobbies that you enjoy doing on your own. It's important to keep a balance and not to sacrifice passions and relationships with friends and family members prior to your romantic relationship in order to spend every free minute possible with your significant other.
But, like balance isn't about making a person your entire world, it's also giving time and love when it is needed and deserved. As individuals, it's natural for us to crave love and attention. However, it's exhausting, annoying, and depressing when we are too scared to ask for both of those things. Here is the biggest thing every person deserves to have in any relationship they encounter.
Reassurance.
This is big. Why? Because insecurities are real. They are real and almost every single person struggles with them. If you're thinking about someone, be the kind of person in this world that lets them know. It can be a phone call, a text, a knock on the door, anything. Communicate that to someone. Let them know you care by telling them straight up. It's hard to believe that someone cares about you when they never say it because they assume you already know. No. Say it.
