We live in a very judgmental world. We are constantly being analyzed by others. It's easier to point the finger and make conclusions, rather than ask the questions. Let's fix that.
Why is it that we're manually programmed to see the flaws before the positives? The standards we're held to could be considered "perfection". It's crazy how the world has become such a cut-throat place due to these unrealistic standards. It always seems like we're out to get one another, and sometimes we even take pleasure in the downfall of others.
For example, when you're on Facebook scrolling through your timeline and you see the kid who you had issues with on the playground 15 years ago who got an awful haircut, you secretly take joy in his misery. We're all guilty of it or something similar.
These extreme standards we hold one another to are the reason why we are so judgmental. We shouldn't be jumping to conclusions about one another. We should be asking the question "Why?" Why is he acting so strangely or why is she dressed like that today? These questions help us see the person underneath.
You walk into a meeting and there's always that one person who has a problem with everything. You can't even finish your sentence without said person interrupting. It's likely the first thought in your head is, "Damn it, Denise, I will end you," and you sit there wanting to explode as Denise continues to run her mouth. If I've learned anything in my 22 years, it's to sit back and bite my tongue, while I evaluate the situation.
Instead of going off on Denise in front of all your co-workers and coming back with, "Well Denise, if you would have just done your job, we wouldn't be in this situation," ask yourself, why is it that she is the way she is. Why does she have to comment on everything? Is it to make you miserable? Probably not. Perhaps she just wants everything to be better.
Before we explode from rage or judge someone for their actions, we never really stop to ask ourselves what this person could be going through. We never truly know anyone's full story or what they could be enduring. Maybe Denise was always challenged by her parents to be better or do better and now she carries that attitude with her to work.
It takes practice and patience. It's not easy when you genuinely don't enjoy someone, but yet still want to try to understand them. It's a good trait to have, and it will help you see the world in a brighter light. Get to know someone's story and ask more "why" questions.
The world would probably a better place if we had more people asking "why" questions rather than drawing conclusions. Get to know the people around you and they might surprise you.
