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Reasons Why Marriage Terrifies Me

Just because you're married doesn't mean you can stop trying.

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First thing's first, I am not anti-marriage. I am not anti-love. I am supportive of anyone who finds love and happiness with their best friend, their other half. No one wants to be alone. We all want to love and be loved by someone, unconditionally. However, there are some who live in fear. Not necessarily fear of marriage, but fear of divorce. In the traditional aspect, we make a vow to God to love someone "until death do us part", yet when a year or two passes -after holy matrimony with your spouse- things happen. Infidelity, boredom, falling out of love with them, or getting married for the wrong reasons are just a few of the reasons divorce happens. But it happens. It is not a sin to get divorced.

Divorce has become the "easy-way out" for a lot of married couples that are tired of being the married couple. It's easier to divorce someone than choosing to love the same imperfect person each and every day. Because marriage is a choice. Every single day. Love is a choice. It is easy to be distracted or have your eyes wander and become jealous. Or to become envious of something that looks better than you.

Technology makes it far too easy to get away with infidelity. Trust is a hard thing in the world we live in today, and without trust why bother with a relationship? Real relationships are built on trust and how much each person cares about the other person. I will stray from using perfect as an adjective to describe the ideal relationship, because there is no such thing as perfect. An ideal relationship, in my own definition, is two imperfect people that blend together comfortably.

Most of us have become self-centered. We update our Facebook and Twitter accounts throughout the day and wait for friends to comment, like, or share our posts to feel important. We have created a new reality where a simple like or complement is the new chivalry, almost. All you have to do is like your girlfriend/boyfriend's status update on their social media, and you're out of the doghouse for whatever reason you were in there to begin with. It is as if interacting digitally is the new from of holding doors open or buying flowers. How can a marriage or any relationship exist under this false sense of security we've created for ourselves?

To quote Audrey Hepburn, "If I marry, I want to be very married." And who doesn't want that in life? We are born to love. We are born with the incredible urge to love someone. Starting with our parents, siblings, and other family members and blossoming throughout the span of our lives.

The thing about marriage is that it isn't supposed to be easy. It takes time and effort to make your partner feel significant even after marriage. The thing about marriage is that a lot of times after the wedding or the honeymoon, either party will stop trying and they won't do half the stuff they did when they were trying to win their someone over. If we worked as hard as we do to make the person fall in love with us, and put that work into a marriage, then there would be a lot less failed marriages.

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