Why rush into something when you aren’t happy? How can you make someone else happy when you aren’t happy?

These are all the things we tend to hear before or while we start getting serious with someone. Most of us tend to ignore these questions when we shouldn’t. The truth is, the relationship will NEVER work out if YOU aren’t happy first. When I say “happy” I am meaning self-esteem and body image.

This is not easy to do and no one will ever say it is easy. It takes time, effort, and commitment to make this kind of change. If you do not take the time or effort to do this, you might as well sit back and relax because commitment is not coming your way anytime soon. I hate to break it to you, but I have lived through this way too many time. I have been through this so much that I now give people advice over situations like this.

I am not going to lie to you, I am still not happy and won’t be for a while. I have been in the situation many times and still catch myself doing it, but luckily I catch it before it gets too far in advanced. The point in all of this is to watch yourself. If you find yourself putting in 100% for a guy/girl but you can’t do that for yourself, then get out. Tell the person that you need to put yourself first and make yourself happy before you can make them happy. It saves everyone from a lot of heartache and pain if you just be completely honest with them.

Recap:

The reason why you should be happy before a relationship is so that you put in 100% into them and yourself, your relationship will last longer, you will obviously be happier, and you will save yourself and others from the drama/heartache/pain. This is a win win situation that you should take into consideration.