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Reasons I'd Rather Commit to a Relationship

I'm so over the heartbreak.

Jul 19, 2016

Reasons I'd Rather Commit to a Relationship

We as millennials are living in the world of hookups. It feels like it is all about swiping right, finding a FB/FWB and the infamous“Netflix and chill.” Everyone would like to endure the idea of being a free soul but continually obsess over “relationship goals.” For guys, they’d rather have that sense of freedom because the idea of being serious is horrifying to them. Everyone is okay with the lack of commitment in this world but for me, it rubs me the wrong way. So here are 12 reasons why I would say screw it to the hookup culture and why I’d like to be in a committed relationship.

1. I enjoy stability

Right now, I am in my early twenties. I thought I would never say this. I AM IN MY TWENTIES! It’s a horrifying realization when you say it out loud. During this time, a good chunk of my life is a rocky road with things forever changing. Majority of my future journey is weird. So I need someone to be rock for me and with me. Things are getting bumpy and I just need someone to help steady me.

2. Best friends don’t always cut it

I love the friends who are always there to go to dinner with and pull me up when I am down. But I don’t want them to always fill that part of my life. I love their compassion for me but I want someone in my life who I can be intimate with.

3. It’s rare

To me, I never hear anyone say “yeah, me and partner x have been together for six years.” That rarely happens. It’s like love and relationships are slowly but surely going extinct. So for me, I want to be able to be one of the rare ones.

4. I’m mature enough

In the past, I could not deal with listening to another person without turning the conversation about me. I was selfish. I wasn’t ready to have important adult conversations without sounding like a dumb ass. But I am different now. I know what it means to active listen and I know not to laugh at inappropriate times.

5. I want some simple romance

Nowadays people think that romance is being able to have grand gestures of love just to prove a point. But that’s not for me. It’s the little things that make my heart soar. And I want that in a real relationship.I want someone to know the little things and I want to know their little things. Knowing one another’s coffee order. Remembering their favorite Chinese takeout place. It’s the small things that count the most.

6. I’m an old soul

You can ask anyone and they would tell you that I’m secretly an 80 year old woman. I love diners, doing crossword puzzles and walking in the park. Sometimes I get tired around 9:30 at night! So sue me! I want someone to be able to accept those old school quirks of mine.

7. I’d like to be able to talk about the future

I want to be able to say the words “when we do this” instead of “if we do this.” Though my life may be a bit of a mess I want some sort of hope for the future with someone. I want to see them achieve and I want them to be the powerful S.O. behind the powerful woman.

8. I would like a safe space

No one ever listened to me about my issues in any of my failed attempts of relationships. I think that when I am in a serious relationship, I would be able to come to this person. And I would want them to be able to come to me.

9. I want to share moments with someone

It’s great to do things on your own. But how many times can you do something by yourself? I always want to dive into the unknown. Now, I just want to be able to hold someone’s hand while I do it. If it is possible to see the beauties of the world, why not share it with person who is your world?

10. I deserve it

I am strong enough for this. I know that I am now. From all the hardships that I endured, I deserve date nights and heartfelt conversations.

11. I want to give love to someone who deserves it

We’ve all had different degrees of love in our lifetime. I want to someone to accept the love that I have for them and not string it along. My partner would always have unconditional love. And I know that they would do the same for me.

12. I’m done with the heartbreak

Like everyone on this planet, I have had my fair share of breakups mixed with breakdowns. Frankly, I am so over that part of my life. I overcame it and now I am ready for the next chapter of happiness that involves another human being accepting of who I am.

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