Have you ever wondered what a FWB relationship would be like? I have always wondered what it would be like, but never really had the guts to actually do it. The reason being is I am the type of person who gets attached easily. I am young, but I feel like I am mentally ready for this kind of relationship. I really was not expecting to be in a FWB relationship so soon in my college experience. It all sort of happened so fast. In the beginning, I could not accept the fact that I was having sexual encounters with someone who I was not in a relationship with. Now that I am in this kind of relationship, it has become clear to me that maybe this is just what I need in my life right now.
Being in a FWB relationship is not as bad as I thought it would be after I moved past all the initial emotions and attachments. I have finally come to grips with what is really going on. And for some reason, I am okay with it. It is a little weird at first because it is difficult sometimes to take emotions out of the equation. Being friends with benefits is oddly fun. I say this because I am not tied down and it is not "serious" so to speak. A friends with benefits relationship is typically more sustainable than an actual relationship. You can have a FWB relationship for years and still like each other and want to hookup because you are not sleeping together all the time. Another reason FWB is pretty cool is because you do not have to sleep over. This does not sound important, but when you live in a dorm with twin-sized beds, it becomes important. These beds are not made for two people.
Something else that is pretty awesome about a FWB is not having to introduce them to anyone and those who know about him do not expect to meet him (if you decide to tell anyone). The last thing is there is no commitment. Although I did have issues with this in the beginning, I have come to appreciate the beauty of no commitment. Your time is not required to be spent with that person, but you can spend it however you like. Do not think I am saying that it is okay to date multiple people at the same time, because that is not what is going on. The one part I really like about it is that we are two people who actually care for each other. We want each other to focus on school and to create a wonderful life for ourselves. We have had this conversation a number of times and we have agreed to focus on ourselves and just be FWB as a bonus in our lives.
To most people, FWB sounds "trashy." It isn't though. This type of relationship involves two people who genuinely like and trust each other. It can be a little complicated in the beginning because what kind of relationship is trying to be formed has not been established. Once that has been talked about, proceeding is the easy part. FWB is like any other friendship, just add sex into the equation. Friendships require people who communicate with each other, respect each other, and work through challenges together. FWB is the same thing with one great benefit: sex.
