If you have never experienced a break up consider yourself mildly lucky. On one hand you are probably still happy and have a relatively positive outlook on the world, but on the other hand you haven’t experienced what loss feels like or truly wanting something or someone you should not have, but desperately desire. For those of you that have experienced someone breaking up with you or have broken up with someone, I’m sorry and I know it is not easy.

Being broken up with you at first feel shock or sometimes you know it is coming and it’s just a matter of when. A flood of questions race through your mind and you suddenly are zoned out and thinking to yourself, what did I do wrong? Am I not good enough for him/her? Does he/she want someone else? Why is this happening?

It is never easy and all you want is an explanation. Sometimes there is no explanation and relationships come to an end, but the pain you feel even after it’s over is still there. The thought that you weren’t good enough for someone really stings. All your friends tell you that it is there loss, which they are right, but at the same time you try to convince yourself that you don’t care because it’s easier to not feel anything then feel at all.

The only trouble with that is that eventually you will have to deal with the emotion of it and continuing to suppress your emotions does not make it easier. Trust me, talking to someone about it is going to make your life 1000 percent better than if you hold it in. Yes guys, even you need to share your feelings because being the hot, dark, mysterious man with all the secrets and emotional problems is only cute in the movies.

If you have broken up with someone, stay strong. I know it wasn’t easy for you to go to that extent of cutting ties with a person you were emotionally and physically connected with, but you did it for a reason. Breaking up with someone doesn’t mean that the break up doesn’t hurt you any less. In fact, it might hurt you more because of how much you want the situation to work, but it just doesn’t. You feel like you are cutting out a part of your life that you desperately just want to stich back together. You start to feel guilty like maybe it wasn’t working because you weren’t putting in enough effort or you are being to overbearing in the relationship.

It upsets you to the point where the lines of your relationship that were suddenly so clear are now very blurry and you are confused. Breaking up with someone is never easy and the emotions that come with it come in waves, but remember you are breaking up for a reason and at the end of the day you have to do what makes you the most happy.

Just remember bad things fall apart so better things can fall together and everything happens for a reason. And if all else fails alcohol will always be there. Just kidding.