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The Real Feelings Behind Jealousy

Opening up about an ugly trait.

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The Real Feelings Behind Jealousy
Kit Begovich

“To me,
You do a really good job at loving other people, but a really bad job at loving yourself. You let others take advantage of your sensitive soul, you let them stab you with words shaped like a knife and sound like “you’re not worthy." When was the last time you stood up for yourself? You know, no one ever tells you as a little girl, the person stabbing your back is not always a jealous friend, most of the time it’s yourself. So why don’t you love yourself? Why can’t you accept the fact that people can love you? Why can’t you understand that you’re not broken, please tell me how you are not beautiful. Let people love like you do; fiercely, yet gently; secured but mad; crazy and stupid, stop drowning in self loath, let go of the knife, you were the one holding it this whole time.
- Kit Begovich“

As human beings, we are prone to feeling not good enough, to comparing ourselves to others and envying others for having what we lack. We may envy someone for the physical objects they have, or we may envy them for their outgoing, bubbly personality traits that we would rather sulk in jealousy over instead of going and fixing ourselves. As humans, we tend to wither away in our own insecurities rather than get up and do something about it. It’s by far the ugliest trait a human being can possess.

Jealous
ˈjeləs/
adjective
1. Feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages.
2. Feeling resentment because of another's success, advantage, etc.(often followed by of):
3. Inclined to or troubled by suspicions or fears of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims:

As human beings, we need to set aside our jealousy, our envy of other people. We need to stop comparing ourselves and learn to embrace ourselves for who we are. You need to know that you are the best that you can possibly be. In the year of 2016, change your ways.

“I struggle so so much with comparing myself to others. I am a very jealous person and it’s the ugliest trait I carry. Jealousy causes a lot of mental health issues and issues in each relationship you have. No matter how much you love someone and trust them, if you are jealous and an insecure person, it will cause you to doubt not only your self-worth but the ability to be loved. Well, today, I am sick of it, and I want to start being more body-positive so I can beat my insecurities and start to see myself the way God sees me along with the people that love me. I’m going to stop bashing myself and start working hard to appreciate the good things I have have, instead of focus on my flaws. Beauty is in everyone and everything! If you know what you struggle with, I encourage you to pledge yourself to fix it, because only you can truly recognize what’s wrong and only you can work on it!”
- Kit Begovich

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