Well it has been a long time coming, but I think I am finally ready to stop being a judgemental, heartless person. OK, maybe that’s a little harsh, but the point is I am ready to stop hating people because they have different values, friends, and pastimes than I.
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate everyone, but those who I do, may be better people than I give them credit for.
Rather than go into detail about who, what, when, where, why and how, I would like to think of this as a big step for me as far as getting along with people. I’m pretty good at getting along with people who are easy to get along with. That may sound obvious but the less effort I have to put into a relationship with someone, the more likely I am to enjoy that person’s company.
Some people however, I just don’t quite click with and once I have it in my head that I will have to work harder at that relationship, I turn that person into a bad person in my head because it is easier for me to hate someone than love them. I chose the easy way out. I pick little things about people and make them seem important enough to throw the relationship over. I focus on the negatives rather than the positives.
Now this isn’t to say that I will become best friends with everyone but I do feel that a better relationship with some of these people will bring me less stress and open up more opportunities that was previously avoiding or shutting myself out of because of these people.
This is a big step for me and I am very proud of myself. I know that it isn’t going to be easy right away, or even for a while, but I am hoping that it will help me in my current and future relationships.