Like astrological signs, there are certain groups people that can easily fit into a certain category among many. The categories that I am going to be focusing on are the highly stereotyped male musician.
There is often an ironic stereotype that musicians are these open, sensitive, and caring yet confusing creatures. Regardless of their sensuous vulnerability, most fail to have copious romantic relationships. This happens time and time again and I am finally putting a stop to the mystery.
Men who are passionately involved with music and want to make it their livelihood are in a committed, romantic relationship already. This very important to keep in mind. Music is a very sensitive piece of art. It takes being vulnerable and sometimes musicians must completely dissociate from themselves to play.
Imagine writing about an emotional time in your life and having to say it over and over for a living. As much as its beautiful its emotionally tolling and it’s almost like the musician is making love every time he plays or sings. It’s a marriage of sorts.
This can make a lot of relationships with musicians tricky and most of the times failing. It gives male musicians a bad reputation but I don’t think the public is too informed about this kind of person.
I am here to dissect the male musician, a complicated specimen, into something that might be able to be understood a little easier.
There are multiple examples of musicians and how they go about romance or anything close to it. I will nickname these different categories to make it easier. These categories are not specified with instruments.
To start, the most basic category is the “hopeless rock-mantic”, the one that is not prepared for a romantic relationship yet heavily pursues love not caring about the hearts that are inevitably going to break. They really do want to share their life with someone but can’t help getting stuck in a sticky situation. They never think of the long run before they speed down heart break avenue.
These kinds of musicians are often immature They don’t really care about serious things. They throw their hearts off tall buildings just to dissect the remains. This should remind you of a boy looking at dead things when they are ten.
Rock-mantics can be extremely torn between how to spend their time. They love to be alone just as much they love to be social. So, when they start dating that have too little time to share they must split their time up with the band, being alone, or with their significant other. On top of that, they probably have another job, family and regular friends to hang out with. They tend to be selfish, distracted, and irritable and this is just because they have set up a situation for themselves that they can’t avoid.
It isn’t impossible to be in a relationship with this type of musician just get use to sharing a lot of your time with that band and can appreciate the short but sweet personal times. But that is really all he can give you. If you try to make him give up time for you, you’ll end up making him feel inadequate and that’s going to end up in fights.
There are the musicians all about the fun times. I call these the “Whatever’s” These kinds of musicians don’t really take their music too seriously. It isn’t something that they want to focus too much on. It’s something that’s fun and a bonding experience. The relationship with this kind of musician is bound to be fun. It will be full of good times, laughs, and probably a lot of booze.
Whatever’s are the type of guys that probably never show off their musical talent. You might find yourself surprised that this guy is talented. They will love music though and will always be playing it singing it everything about music is on this person’s mind.
This kind of guy can be the perfect lover or the perfect boyfriend. But it is strictly his choice whether he is committed to you. And he will make it clear in the beginning yet the lines can get kind of blurred but my advice is to go along with the ride.
He will love to play music but if he can’t, he won’t fret it too much. This kind of guy is great and is extremely delved into himself but finds it hard to be vulnerable. It will be hard for him to open so much but he can certainly put a smile on your face.
The last and final category. The treacherous relationship of being with a musician who is utterly committed to their relationship to their music and aware of it. I call these the “Roarks” This is a reference to Howard Roark the main character of The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand. Sexy, irresistible, horribly frustrating, and can bring a woman to murder.
They are usually a solo performer, but when they are in the band they are more interested in the logistics other than the actual art of music most of the times. This type of musician is certain to leave your heart shattered on the floor. They spend too much time thinking, talking, and living music.
They are incredibly passionate and loving and if you are stupid enough to spend a night with them it will be one of the best nights you’ve had. He will be sporadic in talking to you and other aspects of his life.
These kinds of musicians will always find a way to talk about their music or talents in a conversation. They are vain and absorbed in what they need to do to “make it” that they will not lower themselves to just hanging out. If they want to hangout they will find some sliver of time to shove you in and you might be waiting around dormant until they have another sliver. They are impatient and want you to understand that you are the hobby and music is their queen. They know things about you but won’t say anything to you about them. No matter how good they can be or how beautiful. You will end up hating them more than you can ever imagine. But that might be just the reason you like them.
Now you might be staring into the soulful eyes of someone who can whisk your heart away just by singing a few words. The words that they say, or sing to you might be true. They aren’t heartless pigs, they are connected to a side of themselves that a lot of people and guys aren’t.
But you must keep in mind that just because they say that they like you, or even love you, it will be an uphill battle from the beginning to the ending, whether that’s marriage and touring with them, to a crash and burn and forever thinking their music sucks.
There are a lot of people who can make it work. You must be able to stand on your own two feet. And know that you are sharing a man with music if that’s what he decides to do. Anyways, if a musician is interested in you, it’s impossible to not be good enough. Don’t take it personal, and protect yourself. Have fun and live and love as much as you can in your life, but make sure you know what you are getting yourself into beforehand.
