"Its finally our time!" "Women are finally standing up!" Then there's the one who apologized, the one who signed up for help with sex addiction, and the ones who still swear it never happened, but what kind of charges can be pressed? Many, none, the statue of limitation is reached or it's a grey area. Which at that point all it does is give them a reputation and a loss of a job from a major company. But, it also gives them the opportunity. A book deal, a television premiere, a chance to come back, hell even a chance to become a judge or a president.

But the accuser, things change in a different way. Most of these women who have come forth chose not to allow their names to come out publicly because they know the media and people, in general, will shred her life apart. How many sexual partners has she had? Did she drink that day? What made her be around him at that time? Questions that no one asks of a murder victim, a robbery victim, nor one of an assault. But accusing a man of high stature of rape, oh he could never do that.

Here's the start of the problem, women have always felt like they have to do something extra to be seen. Many men in high spots make them feel like that to even get an opportunity in a high role, or the spotlight. And that's still not the beginning. It starts in how we as women view ourselves, how we rate ourselves and our talent. The reason why so many guys get away with sexual assault is too many women have let them for far too long.

So how do we as women take our power back? Because a public, nor private apology will give you back the security of you. It won't help change the victim mentality that happens soon after. Until I stopped believing I was a victim, I continued to be one. I had to leave that state of mind and realize that I didn't belong to either of the men who assaulted me. I owed no explanation to the people who did not believe me and I should not have been on the defense. They should have been.

We have to stop rape culture and it starts with us. We have to not allow it, and stop it when we see another woman going through it. Stand beside her and stop the altercation or just plain have her back. So often we as women accuse other women of dressing inappropriately or acting a certain way like they are asking for it. But that couldn't be further from the truth. Woman need to stand together, stop slut-shaming and stabbing each other in the back. Stand for your sisters like you are Taraji clapping at an awards show.

We are the end of rape culture because as women, we should be free to be ourselves, no matter who's watching.