In a Western culture where etiquette is followed, it is important when you have received an invitation to RSVP. RSVP, coined by the French, stands for “repondez, s'il vous plaît," which simply translates to “please reply."
I have observed, especially being from the South, that a RSVP is absolutely critical. When in doubt, a Southerner always RSVPs. Growing up in a southern culture I have been invited to many things and RSVPing to events is as vital as breathing is to living. In today's society, we find ourselves busier than ever. We are tied to so many things such as sororities, a tennis team, work, etc., that we are bound to find ourselves invited to parties and events. Whether it is a small gathering or an event for 500 people, if extended an invitation, it is important to respond. Not only is it courteous to the host who invited you, but you will exude poise and manners that will take you far in life! Emily Post would surely beam with pride if she could see when we take the time to RSVP.
Simply put, you should always RSVP to weddings, parties, cocktails, luncheons and receptions. While some of you in college are not quite at that stage, yet, others are and it will not be long before you start attending weddings of friends, sorority sisters and fraternity brothers, or even your own. In events such as weddings, due to the formality of the event, a written response is encouraged as a formal invitation will be sent. Responding the same day or as soon as possible ensures good manners and the hosts will appreciate your prompt response.
Some invitations simply say, “regrets only" meaning the host is expecting your presence. If you plan on going and you follow through, kudos to you. However, if you cannot make it then an email, phone call or even a text is appropriate. Your host does not own a crystal ball to predict your intentions, so be courteous and let the host know if you cannot make it!
Some events do not require a RSVP, however, sending a quick text or email to your host to thank him or her for the invite and saying whether you plan on attending or not, will certainly not go unappreciated. If you find yourself in the position of committing to an event and suddenly cannot go, I reiterate -- send an email, handwritten note or text to your host. They will certainly appreciate knowing your intentions rather than guessing and assuming your lack of care to attend.
Etiquette truly can take you far in life; manners are simple and do not go unappreciated. As the saying goes, treat others the way you would want to be treated, and the same applies in the case of RSVPs. So take the time today and RSVP to your next event!
