I am a very loud woman.
I am southern, outspoken, have a quick temper, and little patience.
I am in love with a man who is quite.
I question the fact that we haven't killed each other so far.
I usually don't like to put my relationship so publicly out there. But, a thought came to me after a deep conversation with my boyfriend. When hard conversations, or problems occur, I like to handle things by quickly pulling off the bandaid, so to speak. I want to identify the problem, or state the topic of discussion very plainly and quickly. This way, we can get through the discussion very snappy and thoroughly and go back to having heart eyes at one another. Problems freak me out. I guess it's because I care and value my relationship so much. So, I state the topic, my feelings, and try to make sense of what's going on in the storm I call my mind. Then, I go silent. I look right at him, and wait. I wait. I wait and I wait.
He is quite. He likes to make sense of his thoughts, and mine before speaking. He processes, and tries to evaluate every option.... all while being silent. Meanwhile, I'm fidgeting, counting to ten to keep myself in check, and even covering my mouth so I don't interrupt his thoughts. It doesn't last long. I open my mouth and say something else. The process starts over, thanks to my big mouth.
So, how does a loud woman love a quite man? How does a quite man love a loud woman?
I'm still figuring it out. But, I do have some educated guesses. For the loud woman: I admire his ability to think before he speaks. This allows him to never say anything hurtful to me. He explains all of his thoughts very well, and to the point. He stays calm. I wish I could be more like this. And, I have the patience of a saint thanks to Michael. He allows me to quite my thoughts and focus on one thing. He calms the tornado in my mind.
For the quite man: I'm not sure how he handles my loud mouth in public. Or how he processes all of my thoughts when they spill out of me like word vomit. So, I don't know how a quite man loves a loud woman, but I am thankful he does.
Opposites attract possibly?
I do know that we found a way to handle our relationship. The first rule that comes to me is that we don't leave each other, no matter if it's four a.m. or not, until we have both said our peace, and know that love still pours from one another. We don't have to fix all the problems. But, we don't leave mad, or broken. The second rule is to be honest. You don't lie to someone who could potentially be your soulmate. It's that simple. And the third rule, I kinda mentioned before, is that the other person knows at ALL times, that there is love and appreciation for them, no matter what has happened.
That is how a loud woman and quite man love each other.
